Would you have achieved more this weekend?

[RillaBlythe]

Settle a argument debate. We gt back from holiday on Friday at 10pm. DP went to London for a 30th on Sat leaving me with two kids, 4 & 11m. The baby wakes 3/4 times a night.

While he was away, I put away 3 loads of laundry, put on & hung out 2 more loads. I unpacked & put away the bags from holiday. Took DD to get a few bits & pieces of school uniform outstanding. Went to the supermarket for food. Swept the floor a million times. Took a bag of crap to the charity shop. Cooked a roast including a crumble for pud. Sewed on name labels.

You can guess our respective positions can't you.

I would be shoving all the cleaning equipment up his arse sideways if he came back from a jolly, leaving you to man the home front with DC's, one of them not sleeping through, and you managed to get all that done. Which is significantly more than I've done this week.

On reading this thread, it reminds me one good reason why I'm single! Ex used to do the same thing, while not actually getting off his arse and doing anything except create MORE mess. Glad he's an ex and I don't have to put up with anyone complaining about how 'little' I've done.

And go on your own to see your friend, chemo's a bitch, and you need time alone with her. He didn't take the DC's to his mates 30th, did he?

And I'd see how much HE gets done in those circumstances.

on your behalf!

I couldn't have achieved more but my dp definitely would,with a big fucking fanfare as well,he would then lie on the sofa and tell me indetail how much he had achieved and how exhausted he was.
I ignore him now,funny he never sees how much I have done.
And please go and see you friend,let him show you how amazing he is while you are out!

Do you need us to tell you are the winner and he is the unreasonable one?

I suspect not half as much would get done though

He is BU of course. Maybe he should have taken the kids with him to the 30th so you could have been more productive?

Book the weekend in to see your friend having chemo & just announce to him he'll have the kids that weekend (big on your face).

Go and see your friend but don't take the kids - if they have any bug or sniffle it could hit her hard.

Go and see your friend.

Leave him with the children.

Arrange for his mum to be busy doing something. I know DH's mum would suddenly make herself scarce for the purposes of this experiment.

See what happens.

In addition, I would seriously think about having one day a month or so where you seriously do FUCK ALL. Don't clear up after breakfast or lunch. Engage the children in craft all day. Let the man witness a 'shit hole' and then he might be able to see what actually does get done.

Make him ring for takeaway when he gets in. Since you will have sat on your arse all day, you will have enough energy to ostentatiously clean in front of the telly he is trying to watch. The trouble with this situation is the man is out all day and seems to think that fairies are doing the housework. I know that at weekends I just do basic maintenance, tidying, the odd bit of hoovering. The main stuff gets done when DH is at work. Make sure that for a while you only do anything while he is watching you do it, and nothing when he can't see you.

I shouldn't read posts like this. It's not good for my blood pressure.
OP you're a fucking superwoman; if I managed to get all that done in a week with DP around to help (and just one baby) I'd feel satisfied.

Can I just say...ARGHHH!!!

That is all.

so you've just bought a fixer upper that he thinks needs work and instead of spending his weekend off doing work around the house, he's f*cked off to London on a jolly ?

Time to pull one of these on him, I think:

www.divinecaroline.com/22321/37661-did-do-day

You taking the children with you to see your friend is cheating!! Let him keep the DC and see how much he gets done while looking after them.

OP have you kicked his arse yet?

FAirly easy to resolve though - surely yyou just go to see your friend, then, when you get back, ask him what he got done while you were away for your weekend.
I think, until you actually stay at home with small children, you don't really understand how time consuming the looking after bit, is. If he's not done it, then it would be good for your relationship, and his understanding, to try it a few times, and see.

Blimey, I think that is an epic effort, what were you running on????? Can I have some please??? I'm expecting my first and now seriously fearing my coping capabilities may be lacking in the housework department! Doubt I'd have managed the floor sweeping bit unless I'd actually gone for the mythical broom up bum to achieve doing more thing and er, I know who's bum I'd be inclined shove the broom handle in your shoes..... Which bit of *k off is he struggling with?

Oh I LOVED divine caroline, very funny!!!

"to be fair to him" why? he isn't fair to you, and you are not there for him to bully and belittle just because the poor ickle flower is stressed at work. He's a fucking grown up, tell him to man up and bloody well act like one.

pppfttt
you know the answer is that if he thinks it's that easy, he has to have a crack himself.
if it helps, we have been "decorating" our bedroom since Boxing Day, and there is still nothing but bare (albeit fresh) plaster on the walls below the picture rail. We manage about a hour a week between the two of us. Very small DC and DIY are fairly incompatible IMHO.

leave the bastard.