DH is in late thirties and we live 4 miles from inlaws and see them probably every few weeks as we work and they travel alot and are very active.
DH brother is a few years younger but lives much further away.
Inlaws have loaned us money in the past but always comment about how and when we are going to pay it back etc. I hate asking them for anything.
However DH brother is the golden boy and owes then thousands. He goes on holiday regularly and pays them back hardly anything and they continue to pander to him, lend him money and no comment is made about the holidays he has etc. Yet with us those comments do get made and we have not had a holiday for a few years as we would feel guilty that we owe them money.
Both DH and his brother are divorced. When DH was going thru divorce they did not really help us and felt that DH made his bed etc. However they have always helped his brother with advice and money.
There is always a drama with the brother and it is always poor boy! When brother was growing up he caused parents all sorts of trouble and it does upset my DH that he has always got on with things and he is just treated differently.
We are going away on a big family trip next year for DH's birthday and I want this holiday to be about him as it is his birthday and celebration but I know it will end up being all about the brother and his family.
Not going to say anything to inlaws as it will cause trouble but just feel for DH as I know it does upset him.