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To be upset that DD is going to school on Tuesday?

51 replies

milkteef · 01/09/2012 14:07

I'm probably being a bit PFB about it. She has not long turned 4 so is one of the youngest in her class but she is more than ready to go. I'm not. I'm sat here almost in tears at the thought that in three days she will be off to 'real' education. No doubt DD2 will keep me occupied but in January she starts a SureStart playgroup and I feel like I'm about to have limbs cut off me.

Anyone else feel or has felt like this? Tell me this time next year I'll be excited for school to start! :(

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lovemykaygees · 01/09/2012 14:08

I cried like a baby on dd's first day of school. I look back and think what a knobber I must have been.

AnaIsAlwaysShocked · 01/09/2012 14:15

My 4 for a long time PFB is starting monday. I still have DD2 and DS to keep me busy, DD1 is more than ready and chewing my arm off to go BUT it feels like the end. The end of 6 days a week with her, the end of being in charge of her learning, the end of knowing who her friends are etc

My stomach is in knots, I've started blubbing at other peoples DC going to school photos on FB, even the ones who have been going for years.

I'm 99% sure I will fall over or do something daft in the playground and mess the whole time up for her.

KenLeeeeeee · 01/09/2012 14:21

P-third-B DD starts preschool on Monday & I'm a wreck over it despite having 16 week old ds at home to keep me busy. I'm probably a massive softy for it but I'll just miss her so much! It's bad enough knowing how much I'll miss ds1 & 2 when they start back at school, but with DD going too, I'm dreading it.

pudding25 · 01/09/2012 14:27

I can't wait for DD (PFB and only child) to start! She's the one who's being a bit funny about it, in spite of having attended the pre-school attached and moving with all her friends. I love seeing her becoming more independant and growing up. Maybe I am the odd one! Or maybe it is because I am a primary teacher so I knowthe school structure and what goes on.

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milkteef · 01/09/2012 14:47

I'm excited about her meeting new people, developing creatively, academically and socially but it does feel like the end. I guess it's the beginning of routine instead. I am a SAH(student)M and spend all of my time with them so I'm just at a loss.

My DF has taken DD and DSS to the park for ice cream now so I'm on my own with DD2. A taste of things to come. Also the first time DD1 has been anywhere with anyone without me or DP except nursery :(

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Psammead · 01/09/2012 14:56

DD starts kindergarten in January. I know she will have fun. She'll be mixing with other kids each day, playing new games, being creative, learning a bit, practising her German, being independant to an extent. She'll be proud of her little rucksack, her little lunch box and water bottle, her special kindergarten outfits that we'll buy together. She'll love her teacher, her peg, her friends, the little loos and sinks, the playground...

And all I want to do is stand outside and sceam 'YOU CAN NOT HAVE MY BABY!!!'.

I am dreading it. And can't wait. Confused

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milkteef · 01/09/2012 15:00

Psammead that is exactly how I feel. DD is going to adore it as she's such a confident little girl. I am excited for her, I think.

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GWenlockMaryLacey · 01/09/2012 15:04

Me. I've bought everything. I've put the labels in her uniform. She's had her first proper haircut. Gone are the long unkempt baby locks to be replaced with a grown up bob.

They're going to have to peel me off the fence on Tues :(

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milkteef · 01/09/2012 15:09

I'm trimming DD's bob tomorrow and doing the labels tomorrow night. I still need to buy a book bag from the school but she has everything else. A grown up water bottle and purse issued by the school for dinner money and...and...

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BadRoly · 01/09/2012 15:12

I have cried when each of my older 3 started school and will when ds2 starts next year. Nursery is different, I can hoik them out if we want a nice day out without any recriminations/form filling/hassle. That can't happen when they are in school proper.

And as a sahm, I have been the most important person in their lives. Now I have to share that glory with their teachers Envy

diddl · 01/09/2012 15:20

I can´t help thinking that time goes quicker once they start school.

We moved to Germany, so managed to put it off for a couple more years, but PFB started Kindergarten pretty soon to learn the language ready for school.

PFB now 16 & just left school-that made me cry!

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milkteef · 01/09/2012 15:29

Oh, BadRoly I get it. If I had a busy day and couldn't get to nursery on time it was no big deal. Now it is a huge legal deal. It's really very scary.

diddl Don't mention the teenage years!!

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Anonymumous · 01/09/2012 18:11

I thought it wasn't a huge legal deal until they actually turn five?

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milkteef · 01/09/2012 18:24

I'm not sure. Does Reception not count with the attendance percentages?

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Arabellasmella · 01/09/2012 18:40

Yanbu it is a big deal but she will be fine and you will be too, the rhythm of life will change and it'll be like its always been that way. Good luck to you all x

missmapp · 01/09/2012 18:45

Ds2 starts school on Thurs, but actually I am feeling funnier about ds1 starting the juniors- I think it is because I know so much more will be expected of him and he really is growing up now.

Ds2 is a sept baby ( will be 5 before he starts school) so I am just so glad he didnt have to start last year, when he really wouldnt have been ready, that I am feeling quite calm about it, until Thursday that is !!

yummytummy · 01/09/2012 18:50

me too!!! my pfb ds is starting big boy school on weds and when he tried on all his uniform i was a wreck!! will miss him so much, wont be able to do all the little activities we did in the week. its very emotional.

he is ready though but i'm not! and dc2 is starting nursery soon so can totally identify with the 2 missing limbs feeling!

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 01/09/2012 18:53

I cried when both of mine left pre school, then started school, then left infants, and when the first left juniors. I have a year left of having a primary school age child and I know I will sob uncontrolably when ds2 leaves. Then it will probably alone again when they have both left secondary.

But school give you so much to share with them, it adds something else to being a parent that replaces the pre school/nursery days.

It's natural to feel like the world is going to end, but within a week you will be used to the new routine and be enjoying the pick ups and hearing all your dds news each day. It's lovely, Smile

ByTheWay1 · 01/09/2012 18:54

My eldest starts secondary next week and I have a knot in my stomach for her already.... She is nervous but excited about it . When I saw her in full uniform I cried - something about the blazer/skirt combo...

elliejjtiny · 01/09/2012 19:17

P(2nd)B starts school on tuesday. Most of the other mums are hard as nails so they will be running out the door yelling yippee and I'll be sobbing in the corner with DS2 clinging to my leg. I found when PFB started school the only thing that helped me was repeating to myself "I'm picking him up in X hours. It's not that long. He'll be fine. So will I" and trying not to think of the end of an era stuff.

yummytummy · 01/09/2012 19:24

actually, just a question for the experienced mums, are other mums at school friendly? am thinking it might be a nice way to meet people as am still sahm so could get involved in parent activities maybe?

Ploom · 01/09/2012 19:37

I cried in front of the other parents at the introduction morning when my PFB was starting school Blush.

I managed to hold it in on the first day but howled in the car all the way home. Dd was absolutely fine.

My dc3 (last dc) finally starts school in a couple of weeks and i'm sure i'll shed a tear about that but after a long summer holiday with all 3 dc at home, i'm def ready for him to go to school.

Ploom · 01/09/2012 19:39

I made some great friends in the a couple of the other mums at school. There's obviously lots of different types of parents at school like there is in the rest of life but I'm sure you'll find some that will be friends. You might have to be confident tho & just invite them for coffee but it might be the start of a good friendship.

Shellywelly1973 · 01/09/2012 19:44

Over the last few weeks PLB has gone from being a seriously laid back,take any where kinda boy to a lil monster so i had been looking forward to him starting school next Tuesday...

Now as its so close im starting to dread it!

I've had a child at home for11yrs! I've never been a SAHM whilst dc were at school. Oldest dc 24, dd 21,dd 11,ds7&ds4.

Suddenly I've got5days a week,61/2 hrs every day to myself.

Im not sure what to do with myself. I think just finding out who I am now will be a start!

neuroticmumof3 · 01/09/2012 20:59

My PLB DD starts on Tuesday and I'm dreading it. She's been at a wonderful nursery for the past three years (I work PT) and has never had an unhappy day there. It was her last day on Friday and I cried in the arms of the manager! I wasn't like this at all with my first two so it must be a PLB thing for me.

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