I am aghast by my DP (lighthearted, sort of)

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My DP has just come back from TK Maxx where I dispached him to change trousers I got him two weeks ago (the label said 34/34 which is his size but they were more like 32/32). He came back saying there were none in his size. I asked what size he thought he was '34 waist, 36 length'. I said, 'have you never, in 43 years bought yourself trousers?'.

OMG, his Mum has bought all his trousers his whole life. I have been with him 10 years and have got into a habit of buying him bits and pieces as well and his Mum buys him loads for his birthday/Christmas. He wears uniform to work.

AIBU to be thinking of leaving him shocked because he has never bought himself trousers?

The men in this household sneer at my cushion buying but seem to spend a lot of time sitting on them

Useless. DP is thankfully more on the ball...

(PS Maat I love your SN and PP )

My DP went on a pants buying mission and came back with boxer briefs that said Lads NIght Out across the arse. And another pair in bright pink with Bert and Ernie on the front.

He's 39.

MIL used to buy most of DPs clothes. Until I came on the scene and introduced him to shopping. Although he did still live at home when we got together.

I wish my Dh would let me buy him trousers- they are all falling apart! I sometimes nag him into getting some and to be fair he does know what size he is.

My DH had been alone for 10 years before I met him. I thought he bought his own clothes until he moved in. A wedding came up and he had absolutely beeall nothing suitable so I bought him a suit from M&S.

I don't really buy much in the way of clothes for myself except for special occasions eg my son's wedding so I didn't nag on about it. There came a time when 15 years later, at a supermarket checkout, I looked at him and though, "God! You look like a tramp" because he just looked shabby. We hadn't bought clothes for years and it was showing.

Unfortunately, I had him for only another 6 months so desperately wish that I hadn't said anything ............

I buy my DH's clothes. He works, I don't and he hates shopping. I roughly know what he likes an I am happy to return things if they don't fit or he doesn't like them. It is nice to keep the weekends free for fun stuff rather than shopping. Apart from a bit of food wine shopping and a bit of pressie buying my DH doesn't go near shops. Works for us.

DH is totally disinterested in clothes.

I think he's bought one dinner suit at university and a set outdoor gear needed for work in his entire life. He's 48

Otherwise, his mum bought him things or I have, (his money). My parents and DSIL give him wearable presents sometimes.

If it needs trying on he moans bitterly.
He tries to run off, the DDs are wise to this.

DMIL warned me he used to say yes to the first pair of school trousers he tried, even when they were about to split.

He hasn't the foggiest idea what clothes he owns. I frequently just chuck stuff at him to wear.

Weirdly he is perfectly fine about shopping for clothes for me or the DDs and not bad at deciding what looks nice.

He can also wash and iron perfectly well.

This is quite odd. I have no idea what sizes DH wears, or even how men's clothing sizes work, it's not something I've ever taken any interest in. I would have thought most adults would buy their own clothes, even those not interested in fashion as such.

I do think it's more than a little strange not to know your own shoe size too!

DH has worn the same size and style of Levi's every day for the last 20 years. Since I'm the one who takes rags to the textile recycling I know when he needs a new pair, so if I'm passing the jeans shop I'll ask him if he wants me to get him a new pair (if I'm not passing it then he'll go to get his own). Ditto shoes, he's worn the same Docs for decades. It's not really "clothes shopping" as the S&B mob would understand it.

I'm really surprised people don't know what sizes their OHs are! My DP is a small in t-shirts, 14.5" collar size in shirts, not sure of his chest. Trousers he's 28" short and size 9 feet. His clothes don't exactly interest me but I still know what sizes he is as we usually go shopping together and I keep an eye out for things in his size!

My mum still remembers my dads sizes and they've been split up 12 years. I do find this a bit odd though.

I thank my first job for this.

Temping, in an office of four permanent staff, all women. They told me at lunch time a little about my predecessor in the temp role. Apparently he had split his trousers at work, and had to go out to buy new ones.

With obvious withering disgust, they told me that he had had to phone his mother to ask what size he was.

They found this hilarious - it seemed not uncommon to me. But anyway, that evening I researched all my sizes, and have known them ever since.

I do, however, have crap taste in clothes. DW often moans that when I buy clothes, whether they are fashionable or not, fit me or not, or whether I need them or not is never considered. Whether they look amusing or not is the only consideration.

My gran took my grandad shopping years ago, handed in several pairs of trews for him to try on.

He came out of the changing room in each pair one by one, there was something wrong with each (scratchy, bit tight/loose etc).

Finally said "This pair is perfect, can we get them?"

Yes, they were the trousers he had arrived in!

He has redeemed himself - I went to work and he went back to the shops, kids in tow and got some lovely fitting jeans! And he has done housework, wine in fridge and ordered curry.

DH buys his suits. He also buys his shoes. He has five pairs of black lace-ups all exactly the same. One pair of brown lace-ups, one pair of deck shoes, and one pair of espadrilles. He has bought the same makes for the last 23 years.

I buy everything else, everything else. He likes beige chinos and a navy pullover best; sometimes he will wear dark green moleskins and a tweedy jacket; I have just got him to wear a casual linen type of blazer thing. He will also wear navy chinos with a pale blue Ralph Lauren shirt - I have just replaced the shirt for the fourth time. He will also wear polo shirts in the summer - he will not wear an ordinary T shirt.

He has never owned a pair of jeans. He has a beige pair of cargo shorts and a navy pair of cargo shorts - he would dealy love to be allowed to wear them with socks . He likes his socks folded and his pants ironed. And he likes a real hanky, nicely ironed and has one every day.

I do accept it's rather sad.

imnotinsane that sounds exactly like something my dad would do.

It'd never occur to me to buy DP's trousers (or any other clothes for that matter) although I'm quite happy to send him on one of his bi-annual shopping trips. I don't mind accompanying him either but not as some sort of Clothes Monitor. But it's quite amusing watching him try and fool himself that he actually is a 32/32 because apparently, trousers are getting smaller, nowadays although, bizarrely, only in the width department!

Pants ironed? I thought it was only my former MIL who was barmy enough to iron pants. Does he have some sort of neatly pressed gonads that won't fit into un-ironed underpants? Or do you really have that much spare time?

I don't need to know measurements as I have a weird ability to beable to match clothes to people without looking at the labels.

I took over shopping for XP after the trousers incident.

I could still tell you my fathers clothes sizes, and hes been dead 10 years.

At a push I could go shopping for my brother - much the same size as my father.

DH abhors shopping - the internet was made for him - but as I control the eBay accounts - I pick, he thinks he chooses, I click

pandemoniaa it takes me about 10 minutes to iron seven pairs of boxers and I don't regret it. Of course he has neatly pressed gonads - I do everything neatly and nicely and that's how he likes it

PMSL at "neatly pressed gonads"

madamfolly - that, oddly, doesn't surprise me at all about your DH.

I mostly knew my Dad's clothes size as well because we'd quite frequently be instructed to buy him clothes for presents - my Mum had a thing about prewashing and tumbledrying every last fucking thing, which meant that many of Dad's clothes didn't survive very long (buggered elastic, or wool stuff) - but of course it needs updating as time goes on!

DH - well, when back in the UK with DS, I was asked to buy him some new RJR shirts from Debenhams - DH has a fondness for these, he likes the style and fit, and they last well. So of course I need to know his size to be able to do that because it's a touch difficult to return them from 10,500 miles away

My husband buys all MY clothes, all vintage, and has only been wrong with the size once. I on the other hand don't even know my bra size.