To ask my friends to include dh?

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I am a teacher back to full time work on Monday. My dh had Fridays off to look after ds 19 mo. I have two close friends with dsc of a similar age who live close by. One has a Friday off and the other will be on mat leave. Wibu to ask them to include ds and dh in playdates etc? Or should I just let dh get on with it? Would you think this was weird if you were my friends? They both know dh and get on with him.

I dont think it's strange at all & would ask my friends if I were in your position.

I dont think itf be odd at all. Maybe next time you see them say "can I give you DHs mobile number so if the kiddies want to play together he can bring ds along"

It depends if your husband WANTS to do playdates with them.. if so, then yes why not!

Have you asked him if he wants to spend his time with your friends and their toddlers? If he would be happy with that it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask.

If you say 'dh will be looking after ds on Fridays and would love to get together with you and the children sometimes' - fine.

If you say, 'please invite my dh along whenever you decide to get together on a Friday' - weird.

Wouldn't it be a bit like a mum trying to find someone for their DC to play with?

Making it known to your DH that your friends are off, and to your friends that your DH would be looking after your DS alone on that day, would set it up for themselves to decide.

What would your DH think about you trying to 'manage' who he sees when he's on his own with your DS?

I did this when Ds was little and oh wasn't working But I was, he went to mums and tots quite happily and arranged play dates with all my friends. One of the other hubbies had a problem with it though didn't like oh being in their house with his wife! Fortunately she thought he was mad and ds was able to carry on seeing his friend.

I think if they "know DH and get on well with him" then he can ask them himself, if he wants to be involved.

or what ZizgZag said

I do not see anything strange on it, but have you asked your hubby first if he actually wants to do it? If he wants, then I am sure your friends will welcome him