to be angry people don't care about what they infront of other people's children.

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so.....someone has taught my toddler the 'p*' word.
I live in a very multicultural place and he goes back to nursery soon where there are Asian children , so its bloody marvelous timing too.

I feel the same about people who teach other peoples kids to swear.
because it is me, who will have to deal with the embarrassment when/if he yells and points it in the street and people will assume I've taught him this, as people do. I have to think of a way to teach it out of him as well which will be bloody great as he has SN regarding speech anyway.

AIBU to be so angry?

YANBU - what is wrong with people?! I don't think anyone should be using that word at all but especially around children. I'm trying to stop my DBs and DH saying "Jesus" around DS for the same reasons... I don't know what the answer is but I would not be impressed if somebody taught him that. I know people will say that children will pick words up anywhere but I would feel just as you do.

Do you think you can explain its not a very nice word and (collective) you shouldn't use it? It might be better to just try and ignore it/change the subject maybe?

While in the pub a while ago I watched a group of youngish twats men, one of whom had brought along his toddler for the piss up (as you do.) They were teaching the little boy to stick his middle finger up at people and pissing themselves when he did. Poor little mite looked so pleased with himself. People are so stupid sometimes. YANBU.

If its a genuine slip up I would be like 'oh well crap happens' lol but its often people who have had children who are foul mouthed and do not think. in short people who should bloody know better .

as he's only a toddler, how well has he learnt the word and its meaning?

might be difficult to explain to a toddler that is a bad word and why not to use it.

could you try to convince them the word is something that sounds like it, maybe PARTY?

him not them

Do you mean pss or pki? Rather shocking if the latter.

Either way, depending on his age, you need to try and teach him that it was something else.

p*ki - no, you mean packet. Toys come in a packet.

p*ss - no, you mean hiss. Snakes say hiss.

What's the 'Asian children' comment all about?

. That'll teach me to read a whole thread. I assumed you meant "piss" and was wondering the relevance of the Asian children

My god i assumed it was Piss, but if its not, i would be even more outraged at the other! Who taught him it?

YANBU, i would chop their bollocks off!

its THE p word blackberry.

tbh piss I would be embarrassed not angry.

That's awful. Not a word with a place in anyone's vocabulary, IMO, unlike actual (ie, reproductive and scatological) swears that are enriching and life affirming It's a word without purpose other than racist abuse.

I don't know how you can change it, my kids have failed to pick sweary language up, despite their mother swearing like a sailor. Not reacting at all might work?

I don't actually know but I have guesses.

we were watching EE when the masoods came on when he let that gem rip.

'a p? look at those ps!'

My XH taught my ds (age 5) 'Ching chong china man' during the Olympics.

My ds has never looked so upset in all his life when I told him what would happen to all his toys if I EVER heard him say that phrase again. Poor little mite it wasn't even his fault. Some 'adults' need to grow the fuck up!

YANBU!

perhaps my outrage is hard to hide though.

a lot of people still use that word as if its nothing though especially IME the older generation especially in Yorkshire.

the worst thing is that he said the work when an asian family came on EE so he's obviously been taught the context of that word too.

I'm going to have to build a dungeon until he's found another word

Ching chong china man is a set of rhymes though. Outdated, but most skipping rhymes have a basis in factual history.

www.odps.org/glossword/index.php?a=term&d=3&t=291

jumping maybe, but I'm not having my dc say what I/others interpret as racial slur. Just because historically something was ok doesn't mean it has to be accepted nowadays.

My SIL and her partner taught our daughter this word when she was one, she was in the repeating stage, they got her to repeat it over and over. They then delighted in telling us how they had done this at christmas. It resulted in a huge argument as DH and I are not racist at all, but the rest of his family are. They couldn't see what was wrong with it, it still angers me today when I think about it.

God that is shocking TooMany

I think that tops mine :O

when DD was little we used to go to the pub for lunch with a gang of friends.
getting her aged 2 to call him "sweary pete" to his face controlled his language better than anything I could have said ....

ToMany

I thought at first you meant piss.
I would be horrified and mortified if either of mine said that. Thankfully mine are older so I can explain the context of racism and read the riot act.
Sorry I've got no advice, do you know where he has heard it?

who do you think it was? You really must confront this person and let then know very clearly that someone who does this or even uses this word has no place in your dcs world. i would be giving some seriouse thought as to cutting this person off who ever it was.

I would also be honest with the nursery and have a quiet word and tell them some very unpleasent person taught your dc this word and how you intend to manage it, ie distract your dc from using it amd replace it with another word and meaning and expect them to do the same.

I would be livid! There must only be a limited number of people who have access to your child when you're not present, surely? I would challenge every single one of them and bollock the culprit soundly! They wouldn't be spending any more time with my kid either!
Bloody disgraceful!!