It is different to what we do now, toombs, because it removes the human checking element.
To debit a card now, it has to be pushed into a slot. So it's very clear when a card is being used and which card it is.
Contactless cards open the possibility for scams where one card is being shown but another, nearby and concealed, is actually being debited. Or for scanning through a handbag.
I don't know exactly how this weakness will be exploited, but it's certainly a weakness.
OK I wrote the above before you added your further explanation - which hasn't reassured me one bit. Because the security you describe is no security at all to both of the scenarios I describe.
And being able to suspend the account immediately you realise there's been a theft ain't a "bonus". It's a minimum operating condition for any card account. It will also be harder to do even than now (and god knows having a card stolen already causes chaos) if you've just lost YOUR PHONE.
Sorry, I think this technology will be very popular because people lurrrrve their phones. And may also cause significant security probs.