That I am upset that DS is not going back to preschool until the 10th!

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Have DS1 almost 4 and a 5 month old baby. I thought he was going back the 3rd, just got an email from preschool and its not till the 10th I just want to cry this has been the worst 6 weeks of my life. This 6, well its actually 7 weeks has confirmed my decision not to be a SAHM and go back to work after my mat leave. I wouldn't of been to bad with one child but having 2 constantly all day everyday.

Ive got to the stage I keep falling asleep cos I am just exhausted I am never like this I literlly have no soul left.

You should try and enjoy your time with them, they grow so fast that one day you will look around and wonder where the time went. Work isn't everything, watching a little soul grow and develope is priceless.

I do they are great but there is only so much you can do with limited funds, living rurally and car being off the road. I only work pt so they will still be with me most of the week. Its just been very intense.

That is hard, if you're exhausted no amount of long term perspective is going to make you feel better.

Do you have the option to pay fpr some childcare sessions next week to give you a break?

Anyone (relatives, friends?) to help you out? Maybe send DS1 out to a friends for a play date for a few hours?

some people need to go to work for their own sanity

there is nothing wrong with it, you don't need to be made to feel guilty by people we are all different

however -coping strategies in the mean time
tell yourself that having a 4 year old and a 5 month old is bloody hard work, it's not easy, people don't sail through it, some are just better at hiding exhaustion than others

if your baby is in a routine, you need to plan your 4yo around the routine -set him up with an activity he can d independantly 10 minutes before feeding the baby and make housework fun for him -mummy's little helper and all that

try to get out of the house everyday, even if it's only for half an hour for a walk -it will do you all the world of good

I feel your pain OP, DS is 3.8 and DD nearly 5mo, so it has been hard-going this summer especially with the weather. However, due to family finances I am going back to work full-time on Monday and I'm gutted . Hard though it has been I've loved watching my DS develop and become a proper little boy and I feel our relationship is much closer. My DD is a dream and I'm really going to miss her.

Jaysus, your first response was a "precious moments mummy" twatty one. You don't need that. Unless you've never thought of trying to enjoy your time watching little souls grow?

Anyway, yanbu. You had the end in sight and the finish line got moved a mile away. I'd be swigging gin by the bottle in your shoes.

DS isn't back till the 10th either.

He may aswell be going back a xmas now the 10th seems so far away.

Workshy ive tried the jobs thing he says "I cant my foot hurts" or "ive got a tummy ache" he isnt even 4 yet and he is already playing the system. I think he has got this from his dad when I ask him to do something he all of a sudden has acid indigestion and is in pain.

The baby isnt too bad I pretty much know where I stand with her. DS is a challenge though he is so back chatty and rude he is more like a teenager than a almost 4 year old I dont know where I went wrong he never enjoys himself there is always tears, massive meltdowns, Ive got to the point I wont go out because its embarressing and I am just exhausted and its not worth the stress.

I count every bloody day and mine are 17, 16 and 12 .... I even go to work when I'm on holiday on the pretext of checking my mail

YANBU. I'm a SAHM with 2 DCs, 5 and 3. By the end of week 3, I was actually crying when DH left for work! And I have a car and friends to spend time with. DD(5) has been no bother, but DS(3, nearly 4) has been the biggest PITA ever. I think he's missing nursery (pre-school) and I'll be quite glad when he's gone back.

You're probably sleep deprived, which won't exactly be helping. But really, you're on the home straight - hang in there, perhaps make yourself a countdown chart .