To be rediciously jealous of my best friend

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Shes the sort of person that makes parenting look easy!!

Yesterday morning i got a text saying she was feeling some contractions and she thinks 'todays the day'. At 1030, i set of to do the 40 minute drive to her house (as i left she sounded a little in pain but like she had hours left) to arrive at her house, told by her aunt that she was outside in the ambulance, to which i jumped in and at 1133, 13minutes after she arrived at hospital and 23minutes after i arrived at her home her baby daughter arrives (amazing experience but thats another story).
By 1230 baby was dressed, best friend is bathed and redressed (back in her size 8's) and looking like she'd just popped out to the shop not just bloody given birth!
At 4 oclock she was walking around the ward, took a stroll to the canteen and asked by the midwife is she wanted to go home tonight or tomorrow.
At 6 oclock I picked her up, took her home, went to get tea to come back in (bare in mind baby is sock on, beautiful, completely peaceful, 2 feeds in being born and very content) shes polishing the sides like nothing has happened!!
Shes texts me this morning saying baby had 1 fed at 11pm and the next a 9 this morning!!

All i can see is i wish my birth had been half as easy as that! Shes just made it look like its a walk in the park!

I mean, how wonderful :)

My ds was very sleepy after birth too, and didn't feed very well for the first few days although I tried v v hard, but on day 4 ( just as my boobs exploded and omg were agony) WHAM he turned into the feed me monster, never off.

Worth her mentioning to her MW but im sure baby will feed well very soon.

Lol. I know exactly what you mean Begonia

Yep i would definitely mention the feeding trainee, new born's should be feeding every 2-4 hours, and if they don't wake, you are supposed to wake them. They sleep a lot when they have no energy and they have no energy if they aren't fed frequently. I made this mistake with my DD

Badtime why pick on the spelling? makes you look like a twat.

Sounds like a few other people are jealous too! Sounds wonderful for your friend op. Congratulations to her!

YANBU to be jealous but your friend WBVU to call an ambulance for labour. It sounds as though she had plenty of warning.

(Disclaimer - my bff is a paramedic who is frequently used as a "maternataxi" and it makes her very cross!)

She was waiting for me to arrive lurking, we all thought we had plenty of time. She had been timing her contractions and they were close enough for me to go to her, but far enough away not to be concerned.
She progressed incredibly quickly in the time it took for me to arrive, the ambulance was phoned (I don't know whether it was Labour ward that sent it, or her auntie who phoned them) and its a good job it was, if she had waited for me and I had driven her then she would have given birth in my car as I wouldn't have had time to get there.

I don't know what else could have been done, we didn't expect it to happen so quickly otherwise I would have set off sooner. I'm then only person she knows who drives.

All 5 of mine just slept for the first 24 hours.
When we woke them for a feed they didn't want to know (including the 2 I bf).
Pretty much dead on 24 hours they started feeding every few hours.

Both my babies didn't feed much when born. They had a quick feed as soon as they were out and then both slept 12 hours on the first night. I think they were just as exhausted as I was....

My DD slept like that the first night (drugs/exhausted from labour?) she didn't the second!

I'm glad your friend is doing well OP.

Try to be very pleased for her having a nice birth and first day at home rather than envious. All my babies have been placid and quiet as a mouse for the first 36 hours, and then it's like someone flipped a switch and the incessant crying/feeding/pooing/crying/pooing/crying/feeding started (and is yet to stop, haha!). If she experiences the same, try to be on hand to help out as it may be a shock to the system if she's been having quite a laid back time so far.

If the baby is sleeping for that amount of time then I doubt she is bf. I have a friend who delievered her 4th in her car on the side of road with only a poilceman holiding a blanket to protect her modesty from passing motorists!!

Why does the dad not live with her?-that sounds like a much more interesting story.....

I always say that there is no such thing as a perfect pregnancy/birth/baby. I have quick labours but I have high risk of miscarriage, awful morning sickness and PND. YANBU though, when I see people who don't have the dreading feeling before the dating scan and look fabulous during pregnancy I usually have an it's not fair moment.

Oh I was the same with my second. Popped him out at home in 2 hours. Had a kip then was washed and dressed and wandering about the hotel where we lived and worked at the time showing him off (6 hours after birth). I wasn't in size 8's though but never have been .

Life just carried on. I was working 2 days later (I worked from home).

Nice that your friend felt able to be up and about but that doesn't mean she has done 'better' than those who couldn't. And the baby needs to feed more than that or it may become jaundiced.