to really really want a day off...

[GinGirl]

We are nearly at the end of the marathon that is the summer holidays, I have 3 children under 5 (the eldest starts school in a week) and I have been with them every single day. September is also going to be a really manic month with my DD1 starting school, a host of family birthdays and my DH going away for a weekend.

Due to my DH's work we haven't been away at all this summer, he has also spent at least one night away for work every week, more often it has been 2 or 3. I don't have a problem with this, we are lucky that he is working, earning good money etc. However...

AIBU to want one day to myself?! I want to meet up with my sister, shop, have lunch and shock/horror maybe not even get back for bedtime! When I suggested this to my DH he made a face...

Arrange it for a saturday/sunday or any day you're dh will be home all day to look after the children and go and enjoy yourself. We all deserve time on our own every now and then. Hope you manage to get something sorted.

Yanbu

I'd have gone mad!!

This is why I've worked for half the holidays

Yanbu,make it happen! Pick a day when your partner is off and tell him that you'll be out that day and to expect him to see you when he sees you

No, YANBU, I really want a day off too. Just one...or even half...

YANBU. I'm desperate for a day to myself too. Go for it! Your DH will cope.

YANBU
I have 2 toddlers, an 8 year

YANBU, book it and tell him. If he pulls the face point out to him how many nights he gets off. And yes I know he's away with work but he doesn't have to do bedtime or deal with night wakings or sort breakfast out for 3 kids.

I'd also ask him why he thinks your job should be 24 / 7, they are his kids too.

Oops
An 8 year old and 2 teens. My DH also works a lot and I'm sooo ready for a day off. I'd live a day to myself in the house actually. Lovely lie in, get up at lunch time. Maybe meet a friend for lunch... Then home and watch movies in bed with a bar of chocolate.

It's never ever going to happen :(

YANBU, arrange a day with your sister and tell your DH. We all need a break, and while he might be away with work he still gets an interrupted everning meal, a good sleep and an easy morning with just himself to get ready.
If he gives you a face then tell him you could always extend the day out to an entire weekend?!

*evening - not sure why that r slipped in there!

Yanbu. Don't suggest- tell him.

Wow! Thanks everyone...

I bloody knew I wasn't BU. I was planning it for a Saturday, it would have BU of me to expect him to take a day off during the week when he is working to deadlines. I just could have done without the face.

Especially after a rainy day at home during which DD1 and 2 flooded their bathroom trying to copy a magic trick they saw at the weekend. They emptied my airing cupboard clearing it up...

Just organise it, and tell him.

What's the problem?
You work hard.

I'm having a day off today (from work child at school). And I'm going to straighten the house a little - with no interruptions. Then go for lunch with my kindle.

I just want the quiet.

Oooo lunch with my Kindle, that is my idea of a perfect date!

I could do with 2 days actually. One day in the house on my own - sort the playroom, kids rooms and the understairs cupboard properly. One day out of the house on my own.

Now I'm really entering fantasy realms!

YAsoNBU. DH works away a lot and I often feel like I just want one day off!

YANBU but I think you have to make it happen rather than wait for someone else to notice IYSWIM. I know what you mean, though. My DH has been away off an on for a lot of the Summer and I've been here with 4DCs. It's mostly great but everyone could do with a change of pace at times.
I'm holding out for September though - my youngest starts nursery so I'll have 2.5 hrs to do the shopping and housework off a day. It's not much, but it's more than I've had for the last 10 yrs!
Talk to your DH - I'm sure he wouldn't mind giving you a few hours to yourself. Enjoy!