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AIBU?

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... to wish he wouldn't bring his friends round without notice?

15 replies

freerangeeggs · 30/08/2012 01:16

Boyfriend has just arrived at 1am with four friends from work in tow (they've been at the pub). I'm still up, but with no bra/makeup, clay facemask on, nursing a wee cup of tea and enjoying watching the telly quietly. If I had wanted to go out tonight, I would have gone to the pub with them. I was looking forward to a quet night in.

To make things worse, our other friend is staying with us just now and sleeping in our usual bedroom while we sleep on the living room floor (there is a sensible reason for this!). I can't even go to bed for that reason - they're all sitting in the living room chatting. Our flat is very small, with thin walls, and I can hear everything they're saying (atm one of them is singing Danny Boy).

Boyfriend messaged me twenty minutes before he arrived, saying "am I alright to bring people round". I replied as soon as I got it, saying I'd rather he didn't. He didn't get the message until he got home and I pointed it out to him.

Boyfriend has apologised and suggested that I get dressed/put on makeup and join them. I don't want to get dressed at 1am! I want to watch the telly and go to sleep!

I look like a dick now too, because bf insisted on having a discussion about it with me (he's a bit drunk) so it looks like I was giving him a bollocking in the bedroom for bringing friends home.

I just think it's inconsiderate of him. If he had told me earlier that they'd be coming back I would have either stayed dressed, gone to the pub with them or got my own bedroom ready. I just want some advance notice that it's a possibility.

Grrr

rant over :)

OP posts:
tartyflette · 30/08/2012 01:22

He's a pillock! YADNBU -- Turf them out if you want to go to bed.

chinley · 30/08/2012 01:22

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futureunkown · 30/08/2012 01:27

Have you all not to get up for work tomorrow? What was he thinking?

freerangeeggs · 30/08/2012 01:39

Thank you ladies!! I was sure it wasn't just me!

futureunknown, we're all on holiday at the moment so no work tomorrow. I think he thought it would be fine for that reason, and it would have been fine if he'd let me know it was a possibility a bit earlier...

Thanks again everyone

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somedayma · 30/08/2012 01:43

yadnbu. I even get a bit antsy when my flatmate does this and brings home v good friends of mine! If I'd wanted to hang out with them i'd have met them in the pub right? I find it hard to say anything (I just get grumpy and slope off to bed) for fear of looking like a mood killer/ downer

ShadowsCollideWithPeople · 30/08/2012 02:07

Oh, no, YANBU. I hate when DP does this. I can't stand when people just land on my doorstep (I may be a wee bit anti-social though Grin). He once just landed his Mum, Dad, Sister, BIL, niece and nephew on me. When I was slobbing out in my trackie pants with no bra on. The shame.

I can make you feel better though, OP. DP once arrived with his buddy, in the middle of the afternoon (I was not expecting him home for many hours) when I was waxing my bikini line. In the sitting room, while watching the Food Network. They just strode on in, as I had one leg on the coffee table and a wax strip on my fanny. It just does not get any worse than that! Blush Grin

freerangeeggs · 30/08/2012 02:55

Oh my days, ShadowsCollide, you made me snort out loud! You poor thing! I would have KILLED him!!

Maybe my night hasn't been so bad after all Grin

OP posts:
ifiwasarichwoman · 30/08/2012 03:03

I differ, YABU, I dont expect DH to ask if he can bring friends home, esp if he is out on a rare night out and there is no work in the morning.

ravenAK · 30/08/2012 03:10

OK if you have a bedroom to retreat to & they keep the noise down a bit.

NOT OK when he knows full well you have already given up bedroom to a friend.

I'd probably join them (in my pyjamas, sod putting makeup on) but he owes you one...

Thumbwitch · 30/08/2012 03:42

YANBU - he should have waited for an answer, not blithely assumed you'd be ok with it.

Shadowscollide - however did you look any of them in the face again? ShockGrin

Happybunny12 · 30/08/2012 03:50

Ha ha ha @ shadows collide, that's hilarious! Thanks for cheering up a 3am feed. Hope you recovered!

CheerfulYank · 30/08/2012 04:00

LOL Shadows!

RichWoman It's not necessarily asking for permission so much as giving the head's up.

Inertia · 30/08/2012 07:53

YANBU. I would be fuming. In fact I would have announced that I was going to bed, told them that they would probably want to relocate to the kitchen while I got changed, turned lights off and got into bed.

Sunnydelight · 30/08/2012 08:09

YANBU. DH (DP at the time) did this once. We had both been out (NYE in Sydney) but I rolled home earlier by myself pissed, happily leaving him to carry on partying, and was crashed out NAKED on a bed in our studio apartment when he came through the door with half a dozen people. Luckily he proceeded to lurch through the room, straight through the glass doors onto the balcony. Everyone left sharpish and once I checked he hadn't cut an artery I went back to sleep Grin

JeezyPeeps · 30/08/2012 08:12

From the headline, I was all set to say YABU.

But at that point I didn't know it was 1am and you are sleeping in the living room.

Thoughtless at best. YANBU.

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