To ask if you ever go to bed guilty that you went over the top a bit today?

[moonface73]

Am tired, grumpy, much pmt, kids were knobbing about in supermarket and I lost my temper and moaned at them all the way home...made up before bed and I said I was sorry for being shouty...now they all sleepy and cute looking and feel like a superbitch...

Nooo, you put all that to bed when they do, I thought that was the rule!

Either that or a glass of wine or two to forget about how bad you or your precious offspring have behaved.

You wouldn't want them to stress and feel guilty about how they behaved would you?

Let it lie, have a and de-stress, ahhh that feels good doesn't it?

do people sometimes go to bed not feeling guilty then?

every single night

Guilt ridden yet tipsy here. Shouted at 3 year old (he'd bitten me, twice, and I lost it) grumped at mother, shouted at DH. Tomorrow is another day.

Nope I dont feel guilty. Rainy days and Thursdays or any fecking day when I dont get a break alwasy get me down.

I am lying here feeling guilty for very similar stuff. Massive gap between the person I want to be and the person I was today. I can make up amazingly convincing excuses for myself but then feel guilty for doing that! Time to stop thinking!

oh gentle you sound me.

Yep I frequently feel guilty for stuff like that.

Had a dreadful day yesterday, DS was vile, shouting and screaming, throwing etc. I know he was just tired from a busy day the day before but so was I so my tolerance was low.

He was lovely at bedtime, so then I felt bad, but I know he was horrid so feeling guilty is stupid really. Can't help it though!

Yes yes yes god I'm glad it's not just me.

I hate getting shouty, and I know that they are the tired children unable to control their emotions so I should control mine but it's so hard sometimes :(

Every day. It's only since joining mumsnet I've realised it's more normal than I thought and that other children play up as well.

Sometimes, I am tired a lot of the time and can snap, nag etc more than I should.

But I'm doing my best, I tell them all the time how loved they are, how proud I am of them so it doesn't get me down.

I've never felt unconditional love from my parents so I always strive to make sure mine never feel that way

Was something in the air yesterday? I had a shocker of a day and when I tried to explain what a crappy day it was to DH, I just couldn't work out what went wrong. We'd done some nice things, I just turned into queen bitch from hell at some point.

Today isn't going to be much better as we are all tired after letting the DC's stay up for the Paralympic ceremony. (None of us made it to the end but we all went to bed later than usual.)

NEVER

Oh sorry I meant PRETTY MUCH ALWAYS

I try to console myself with the fact that I do, as you did, apologise to them if it was just about me being cranky/exhausted so they don't take on any guilt or think their behaviour has caused mum to be angry. They even joke about it and enjoy making me feel better by saying 'It's ok mummy you had one of your moments'.

I spend all my time feeling guilty - isn't that what being a parent is all about!!!

Glad it isn't just me! Go to bed feeling guilty about work, not putting in enough effort at home or work, if I have snapped at DD who is going through a hitting phase...list is endless!

Guilt is a permanent state when it comes to parenting I think...... Thank god for gin which tends to block the feeling quite well

Did you not know that as you are pushing baby out the guilt genie forces its way in?

Don't know how old your children are but I am particularly grumpy at the moment as it's been a looooong, wet summer and the children are definitely ready to go back to (or start in the case of dd2) school. Dd1 is normally a fairly easy child but she's been very insolent recently - I think she misses seeing her friends and needs more mental stimulation than I can give her.