Am I being taken advantage of?

[PenguinBear]

I'm not sure if I'm being mean saying no or if she is cheeky to ask!

A bit of background:

A lady I know ( would call her more than an acquaintance than a friend), often asks me for lifts when we are going to the same place ( we go to a group where we met). She lives on my road and I am always happy to do this as she comes to mine and we go to the same place etc.

The other day she needed to go to a nearby village for a sports competition. I happened to be going that way to visit some friends in the next village so I dropped her off.

I was at the group in the evening and she text to ask for a lift to the group. I told her I was already there and she asked if I could come and collect her. I said no as I was already there!

Today, she text and asked if I could again take her to her sports practice. I said no sorry I was out to lunch and she replied saying it was for later today ( and therefore I wouldn't be at lunch so could take her). I am
Not going that way today (10 miles away) so i've said no.

I am happy to take her to the group but journeys that are out of way I am not willing to do.

I don't think i can stop her asking, so AIBU to say no?

YANBU at all.

YANBU.

It sounds as though she wants her own personal (and probably free) taxi service.

YANBU, you are not her personal taxi service. If yiu're heading the same way and it's convenient then it's nice of you but if it's not convenient for whatever reason then there's no obligation at all. If she wants more then that then she needs to either start paying for taxis or get her own car.

YANBU

cheeky mare (she is)

Not at all. But it sounds like you are going to have to be straight with her.

"I cannot give you lifts if it's out of my way. If I am going somewhere, I am happy to take you too, but I can't be your taxi take you to places I am not going to. I can't spare the time or the petrol"

I think you are doing the right thing. Its one thing to give a lift when you are going that way, another for her to ask you to change your plans or got out of your way.

Frankly she is being a cheeky moo and yes taking advantage

YANBU at all, and it sounds like you've successfully completed an assertion skills course recently!

YANBU

fair enough if you're going the same way, but to collect her to take her somewhere?
what a strange woman!

unless you have a Taxi sign on the top of your car and she is paying you YANBU

Just say to her that you don't mind giving her a lift if you are both going to something but you are not her personal taxi service and find it a bit rude that she is texting you and asking you to collect her

I am glad you all agree with me... I'll wait till he asks again before mentioning anything! I feel like just ignoring the texts but she may have something on her phone which tells her whether I've read it!

YANBU

Pop a bus timetable through her letterbox.

just ignore the texts. it really doesn't matter if she thinks you've read them or not. it shouldn't be taking up any of your time really.

Thanks all! I will do my best to ignore!