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AIBU to ask people on here to make an important decision for me?

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exmrs · 28/08/2012 20:24

Basically im so unsure what to do for the best,
Currently in private rented house, nice area near school but expensive , husband has left me and son and although rent is doable just im constantly worrying about cuts etc
and we have had to move constantly previously in private rented due to landlords moving back into property etc and i hate that i dont think of the house as mine as im constantly telling son not to touch walls etc and finding somewhere private as a single mum on benefits would be very hard to find if i had to move from this house.

I have been offerred chance of 2 housing assoiciation properties both first floor maisonettes both properties i would have to drive to school where at present i can walk

maisonette 1) quiet and at the end of block and only 1 block of maisonettes and parking at bottom right near, but son wouldnt be able to play out as wouldnt be able to see where he played and its too quiet and no kids on this bit for him to play with and its sort of up a dirt track but very manky inside

Maisonette 2 ) in middle of block and lots of maisonettes in square shape with a patch of grass in the middle where kids play where i could see him play, but lots of people on balconies and im not used to living in flats where people have doors open and walk in each other houses all the time what people seem to do here. Parking further away but cleaner inside than other one

Do i go for house 2 so my son can play out?? Do i move ?

Please someone make the decison for me

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LemarchandsBox · 28/08/2012 20:31

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OhTheConfusion · 28/08/2012 20:33

Do you have the option of declining these offers of housing and remaining in the housing list? Does the association have properties nearer the school?

exmrs · 28/08/2012 21:35

Hi thanks for advice , if i decline these 2 then im off the list for a year, i do know that im very lucky to be offered these 2 places, i have been told i will never be offered anything near school as they dont have many properties near there and its all houses which i would never be offered as i dont have that many points for a house.
Lemarchsandbox i did originally think the quieter one would be better but my son would never be allowed to play out as it looks desolate as its up a dirt track near a cemetary and he would be the only kid there.
Good point about parking in rain and snow and the bigger teenage kids

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JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 28/08/2012 21:51

No 2 - you might just need that open door community one day. If you aren't an open door sort of person yourself, keep yours locked.

But there is a lot to be said for neighbours knowing each other and keeping an eye out for one another too.

Currently you are living day-to-day in a house, take a maisonette and make a permanent home.

exmrs · 28/08/2012 21:53

I think i could just manage but im due an inspection soon and after every annual inspection i have had they have put the rent up for inflation which i could not manage.
Also im so worried that with the cuts next year that even these maisonettes will be highly sought after and i will never get this chance to have a bit of security for me and my son

Lemarch i think i am going to go for 1 thank you for helping me decide : )

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LadyBeagleEyes · 28/08/2012 22:00

If you can get an HA home go for it.
You never know what's going to happen in the future but at least for the time being you'll have the security.
Both properties sound much of a muchness to me though, so can't help you which one to choose.

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larks35 · 28/08/2012 22:02

Definitely take up one of your offered HA places and give yourselves some stability. I'm not sure how to advice wrt 1 and 2. How old is your DS? With maisonette 2, do neighbours seem friendly? I think if it were me and my DS 3.5yo and DD 5mo, I'd go for option 2. Kids need outdoor spaces really.

omfgkillmenow · 28/08/2012 22:08

Id go for number two, my dd goes to her dads where there are no other kids and she hates it, friends are more important to kids than anything else, and you might just make a few yourself. If not no matter, you can lock door. Ok it may be noisier, but you can learn to block that out, i used to live right next to railways and i could sleep through the 4am freight train when i got used to it. HTH

omfgkillmenow · 28/08/2012 22:11

Also, once on a housing association list you can apply for mutual transfer list and might get somewhere even better

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