To ask DP to help pay for the new sofa

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Posting thing for my a friend.

Do you think it is reasonable to ask a partner, whom is looking to move into the home by christmas, to help pay towards the new sofa that they need for the house.

His agruement is its not his house yet. Hers is soon it will be and he will be getting as much use out of it as her.

I can see where her dp is coming from, but to me her point fair outweighs his.

I make him right

What if living together doesn't work out?

How would she pay if he wasn't moving in with her?

When she says 'it soon will be his house', does she mean she's adding his name to the mortgage or rent book?

My advice would be to reconsider having the partner move in.

Just because they are planning eventually to move in together means nothing. Anything can happen between now and sometime before Christmas. They could further delay him moving in, they could even split up and be left arguing over who owns the sofa lol.

Thats a good point about the not working out. Although id hate to be the one to suggest that . Though i guess if they bought it at christmas once he had moved in then they would have the seem issue with what if it didnt work out.

They will be living together with everything being split in half- bills, rent etc as far as she has told me.

If they're arguing like this now, I think they should reconsider moving in together. They don't sound like they have a real partnership of the kind that's going to last.

If he's being difficult about contributing already, I'd reconsider having him move in.

Yes but will she be adding him to the tenancy agreement the minute he moves in?

Agree with HellonHeels.
If he is making a fuss about this, cohabitation will not be all roses.

She can buy the sofa, he can sit on the fucking floor, the stingy git.

Don't move in with him.
If he visits, charge him to sit on the sofa. Actually, even if he does move in, charge him.
I'd kick him to the kerb...

It's for their joint use? YANBU but if he was being this tight already he wouldn't be moving in :o

I dont actually know Worra, i just assumed she would be the way she talked about them paying it, but adding him i suppose is actually different to him paying.

What i see of the relationship they get on fantastically and this is the first issue that has arisen. He doesnt seem to have any issues about sharing the cost of everything else. (Although obviously im going off just what shes said).

If hes anything like my DP hes had a cushy life at his parents and hes just taking his time realising mummy wont be paying for everything anymore lol.

Lol at charging him to sit on the sofa. I just told her to make the existing sofa last til christmas (its pretty dire though to be fair) and then it can be THEIR sofa.

Wait until he moves in.

I don't actually think it matters who pays for the sofa, but personally I wouldn't want to live with someone who refused to contribute when asked - assuming, that is, that he is in a position to afford it. Doesn't bode well for the future if you ask me.

Its just old, it was a cheap sofa when she moved into her place and is at the end of its life.

All this sofa talk is making me want a new one! My sister just got one and i have serious sofa envy! Lol.

Blimey.

If he is being difficultabout paying for half a bloody sofa then I wouldn't want him moving in with me. Sounds like trouble from the start.

if he does contribute towards it he could say it was his if things went tits up. i would never go halves or anything with a bf when it comes to furnishings and i would only accept rent on the condition it was understood that it was pay as you go not a 'right' to refuse to leave. but then again i would never ever have a joint tenancy/mortgage.

but im now rather jaded given that i have 2 ex partners currently living in houses i paid for and they contributed nothing to.