To have felt very alone this weekend

[cuteboots]

My little boy spent the weekend with my brother and sister in law and it made me realise I dont have any real friends and that if it wasnt for my mum it would be even worse. How do you go about sorting this if you work all the time?

i will be happy.i will take a bus and head to centeral and spend all the time to discover what is happening there!!i think you need some time just to be alone!!!!

ok thanks for the feedback

Be thankful that he came back. Some of our dear ones don't.

I'm with you. My sister has been away this weekend and DH has been working so it has been just me and the kids (and no money to do much). Really made me think about how I should get out and do something....but what..and more importantly with who!

Is no one else seeing the same OP I am?

Are you on your own or do you have husband/ partner? If you do, can he look after your little boy while you join a club/pursue some kind of interest one evening a week? Clubs are very sociable by their very nature and are a great way of meeting people.

I've also found that school has been a great source of new friends.

rulebritannia- Im now even more confused?

Louboo2245- Same position here very skint but know that it cant be good not doing anything ; 0 (

What nasty responses! I think maybe the time served advice to start a course or pursue a hobby could help or if your child is at school, help out there on the PTA, have your head up, be friendly, invite people round.
& ignore the previous responses

I am as confused as you Fab!

There are some very strange trolls people on the interweb

Anyway! OP, have you thought about an evening class or an exercise group? Nice way to meet new people and do something for yourself at the same time.

cuteboots what bad luck that two nutters answered your thread first.
Sorry you feel lonely, it's hard isn't it? No advice but there are a lot of us with kids who work and feel we don't have any real friends.

Hilly - nasty responses?!

Confused!

OP, can you try and take up an evening class or aerobics or similar? Maybe try a local site for ideas?

Strange responses!

Usual ideas of clubs/evening classes. There are quite a few weekend classes/trips that are suitable for people to go on alone (have been looking longingly at some today) - so maybe try that next time? It's a good way to meet new people as well.

I id laugh at the weird replies obviously they have nothing better to do with their time. Thanks for the positive answers .

Wow cuteboots, you're lucky that your son came home. FFS RuleBritannia. I am sure as hell cuteboots realises that. However, that wasn't really at the crux of her OP was it?

Cuteboots, what sort of work do you do? Any chance of making some friends there? Or at your son's school?

There are a hell of a lot of trolls strange opinions around atm.

Come over to the facebook group for lonely MNers here - there are over 100 of us, you are bound to meet someone near you or you can just message with people if you've no time to meet up. Page down to the link which takes you to Anne Smith's FB page and friend request her.

Banana - it is lovely that there is such a group! Cuteboots, definitely investigate. I was very lonely when I first moved to Belgium and had one hell of a job meeting people, so I definitly empathise. We did our first Belgian meetup a few years back and I have met some genuinely lovely people.

tigerstripes- I definitely hear the patter of tiny troll feet on this thread but it did make laugh. Ive probably made it worse for myself as Ive got mates but they are married so that doesnt help. I dont do the school run due to my work not being very child friendly. I work in an office full of much younger people so I woudlnt really go down that route. I think the eve class sounds like the way forward .

Bananaketchup- I will try and give that a go

They're all over these parts at the moment!!

I'll probably head over to that thread too. I have some great friends, but all of them are attached so at the weekends I can get lonely.

I completely get where you are coming from, my hubby took dd out so that I could do the cleaning the other day. I finished cleaning, had a bath, sat on the settee and realised I was completely bereft without them!

My circle of friends expanded greatly when I started going to an evening exercise class once a week, I like everyone so much I go three or four times while Dd is in school now. The first few times going and not knowing people was nerve wracking but it's worth it. They even do a girls night out once in a while, I promised to go on the next one.

humph I have one best friend and he did his monthly visit to his mother this weekend. I was lonely too.

What nasty sentiments there are. OP I know what it's like when the family or most of it is away. It's empty and I've been married for 21 years.

But, when the sun is shining, or even when it isn't - there are fields, and rivers, and walks, and the odd coffee if you can stretch to it; v v cheap concerts in churches which have marvellous music even if you don't believe; book clubs and good books, bridget jones's diary and a bottle of wine. If nothing else, rest and conserve energy for when your ds is home and make plans for leaf kicking, shell collecting, inspecting pavement cracks, counting rubbish sacks and finding out about the nearest 1 o'clock club where there may be a kindred spirit. Life is short; time is valuable, use it wisely and make sure you are treated kindly.

mamabear17- Thats exactly what I mean. I think its good that he can go off and spend time without me but god it was horrid. Yet another reason to get more stuff going on in my life.

Marriedinwhite-Thanks for the feedback and it made me feel alot better