To want DH to occasionally show enthusiasm re family holidays?

[specialmagiclady]

Whenever I bring up the subject, I get this face about expensive or busy time at work etc. he loves the holidays once we're on them, loves spending time with me and the kids but doean't seem to want to get involved in organising/paying for them. It's just so disheartening. I'd really like him to come up with a suggestion of somewhere we could go, find a nice campsite etc. or failing that, at least look over my shoulder and say "that looks great! I'll look into flights" or even "well done - let's book it!"

Normally, I don't allow myself to be put off, but this year I have had enough.well, I 'm an idiot, because our family holiday will consist of 3 nights camping on Exmoor. And The Fuss! "will there be a mobile signal? We have to be back by Tuesday lunchtime" etc etc. We have been on holiday to where he works in the past so he hasn't had to take time off work to be on holiday.

Drives me mad. AIBU?

I think YABU. Not everyone likes to go away, and maybe your DH has a hard time picturing the fun bits amongst all the stressful bits. If you want to go away, plan it, and simply bring him along. He's goes and has fun, that is what is important right?

YANBU people like this are a pain in the backside. Could you possibly get him to pay for a nice holiday just for you and the kids?

i dislike 'hoildays' the stress leading up to the holiday is unreal, on 'holiday' then its stressful running around after 2 kids then after the hoilday it takes forever to unpack wash dry ect the clothes.

my husband is much the same. I've now learned to refuse to let his mood impact my planning fun family holidays. I've decied that if he doesn't want to participate in the planning, he has no right to bitch if it isn't what he wants to do.

And he usually winds up having a blast, plus I now get total control over where we go, so it's places I want to see/experience. Win win in my book. I have a friend whose husband books a cottage in Filey every bleeding summer. She's about to lose her mind.

Thanks for listening - sorry to just bugger off. Busy! But I feel much better. It's tough on him as he's freelance and so there is never really a good time to get away. But as a part-time worker and housewife, my house IS my workplace so there's no way for me to get a break without going somewhere different. If we didn't go away a couple of times a year, we would split up. (Not talking exotic, just not in the to-do list that is my house).

We are making a strategy for next year to do with setting budgets and with DH being assertive in his workplace and Getting It Booked. And if the goalposts move at his work, he has to make sure there's someone else around who can deal with it while he's away.

Basically, he's a workaholic... GAAHH!