To feel really guilty for causing my DD to have to attend A&E!!

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I feel awful for having to take my 3yr old DD to casualty today.

We were having a lovely family walk around the local Marina, swinging DD between us when the arm I was holding 'Popped' DD screamed and let her arm go limp, she said it wouldnt move though her fingers did.

We got to A&E asap to find a waiting room full of casualties at least 50 people (at midday on a bank holiday?) luckily our local NHS Hosp has a separate childrens A&E so we were rediredted there and seen within 5 minutes. Wonderful Nurse diagnosed the problem straight away, she was suprised that this was only the 2nd popped elbow of the day. A quick manipulation, a brief howl and all done!

No lingering effects. DD playing very happily all afternoon with her arm as normal but I still feel sooooooo bad.

Waiting for the call from SS

Aw poor DD! And poor you! I did read a while back never to swing them round by the arm...but I never thought that swinging them between two people would pop their arms!

It's good to have the warning though! Is she asleep now?

Don't do the swinging anymore. It is more than likely to happen again.

This happens so often. I cringe when I see adults doing this with their children.

YABU to feel guilty. You didn't do it on purpose but you know now.

I was told by an A an E nurse its one of the most common accidents they see. So i wouldn't feel too bad. There was a thread yesterday about a lady who did this too, so it is common, unless you are her

DS1 was in A&E with a pulled elbow 6 times between 18mths and 4 years when he grew out of it and that was with me knowing he was susceptible to it. It's easily done - one time both popped. DS2 was only 2 days old at the time, that was a really good night ...

Never got a call from SS, although did speak to HV at one stage because of how often he did it, just to discuss investigating it further if he didn't grow out of it.

Wow, i won't do this again. Thanks for posting OP, don't feel too guilty, it was an accident

Apparently A&E at our local hosp see 4-6 a day and up to 10 at weekends.

Our DD was unusual as it normally happens before the age of 18 mnths.. our DD is nearly 4, this is the time they have normally grown out of it by then.

If it happens once it is very likely to happen again!! DD is now banned from swinging between us, luckily she understands.

She is absolutely fine and snoring soundly.

If it makes you feel any better about the fear of it happening again, my DD2 had her elbow dislocated around 6 months-ish (thanks DD1!) and she's now 4+ and it's never happened again.

My DS2 s arms used to do this regularly. It's not your fault. I was a bit tbh when we didn't get a call from SS after several visits

DS is fine now.

Don't feel guilty. It was not your fault. You are a good parent because you listened to her and took her straight to A&E.

SS will not be notified. I doubt there is a parent ever born who has not swung their child like that, along to screams of 'again again', until we feel like our arms are gonna pop!

Glad she is ok

DD had this happen twice, with no long term effects. First time she did it doing the hokey cokey in nursery lol! Don't feel too bad.

SS won't come out, your story exactly fits the inury. Ifyour story didn't fit then SS may have to be notified. For instance, if you DD had a broken leg and you told AE that she slipped on the tile floor, then SS would be called.

SS knows that things happen to kids by accident. if they didn't we really would need licenses to have children.

That is so easily done. She won't blame you, don't worry

Thank you for the post, I will not be doing it any more didn't even realise I could harm my dc.

This happened to my dd when she was with my mum the other day. Dd was fine within seconds of it being put back into place. My mum took a bit more time to be fine with it ( and a few glasses of wine!). The nurse said it's extremely common.

This has happened twice to a friend's DC, I think it's a really common injury and A&E won't think twice about it.

We did it to our DD2 quite a few times And her brother managed to dislocate her elbow twice just playing with her. Because it happened a LOT we asked to see a Paediatrician..turned out she had really lax joints. He showed us how to pop her joints back ourselves.

She's 18 now and still as loose jointed as ever.. now contorts herself at parties for the fun of it!

It is a very common injury!

I know at least one other person who has accidentally dislocated their child's arm.
I managed to actually let go completely of my child once when swinging her with Granny - luckily Granny held on! Oops.
My own Mum (same as above) had to take me to A&E when I was about 3 days old as she'd walked through a doorway with me in her arms, misjudged the frame in relation to my head and almost knocked me out..

It's the third visit in 12 months that triggers the HV to visit. Some of us have Lo who manage to injure themselves standing still - really.

My dd has had popped elbow/shoulder too many times for my liking, the vilest incident she did herself on a stairgate being a "monkey" and then shook it in pain and popped it back in with the bones crossed.

She's four in november and it last happened at easter. I'm overly cautious, she isn't and hangs off things/people all the time, I'm a nervous wreck and have been to our GP countless times as it scares me she has a problem, she is double jointed which doesn't help.

Do not feel bad, its no way your fault, although I completely know how you feel.

My sister did this at the age of three, didn't even notice until the next day. She evidently didn't feel it either, just kind of let it hang there. Don't worry!

My Dd's arm used to do that, she even managed to do it while just rolling over on the floor while playing!
She finally grew out of it, she's 7 now and it hasn't happened since she was 5.