to expect my husbands attention

[mummymunns92]

My husband has always spent alot of time on his xbox but lately it seems he can spend hours on there talking to his mates but cant hold a five minute conversation with me. I try and talk to him but he always ignores me because he is on his headset with his online friends. I just told him how i feel about it all and he just walked off and went back online. Its really pettu but im really jelous of how much of his time his friends get when i get none :-(

It's a question of degree.
Too much is too much.good luck with it all

oh i could of posted that op it was me a few years back dp obsessed with uo and then wow. I got him to cut down by saying no computers between 7am and 7 pm dc's bed time then i joined in playing which gave us something to talk about

The xbox is a red herring. It doesn't matter what the hobby is if it means that one person is neglecting their relationship.

OP YANBU

I'm in my 50's too, I don't think it's a generation thing at all.
I spend far too much time online, though I don't have a partner.
I'm sure there's loads of 50 somethings out there doing the same. We're not all old fogeys.

I would argue that looking down on playing video games, especially console games, is generational. I wouldn't say that nobody in their 50's plays them, but I do think fewer people do than, say, people in their 30's, and more people in their 50's will consider playing games childish.

But in any case, certainly we can agree that they aren't aimed solely at children any more.

And anyway, Chaoticismylife has summed the thread up very succinctly.

Social skills are required to go to a football match? Really?! Hmmm... if you say so, Mrs. Clown! I guess you disapprove of reading too then - that doesn't require any social skills either.

Nothing wrong with Xbox.

Lots wrong with playing it every night and ignoring your wife.

OP you said "he has promised me time and again to come off early and just cuddle up and watch tv" but really, why should he? Perhaps you should cuddle up with him and play XBox and get some together time?

YANBU to expect some time as a couple but maybe you should try something more tempting to get him off the XBox

Chaotic summed up what I was trying to say.

Playing a game isn't the issue. I love playing GT5 but only if dh is away, working or watching something on the laptop that I have no interest in. I wouldn't sacrifice time with him for a game.