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Original poster

to think the man is ASDA shouldn't have told my DD that he would take her over his knee if she had been as cheeky to him as she was to me

27 replies

workshy · 27/08/2012 17:18

DD is 11, but looks more like 13/14

we were in Asda this aft and I asked her to bend down and work out which pack of cat food worked out cheaper I have a bad back, she knows this, I'm not that lazy she said to me
'I'm not at school, I'm on holiday, and what did your last slave die of'

cheeky yes but said with a huge grin on her face, under normal circumstances I would have said 'oi, don't be cheeky' and she would have done it (I'm not looking for opinions on her behaviour btw)

but before I could open my mouth, the chap filling the shelf (mid 30s) said 'I'd put you over my knee for talking back to me like that young lady'

he said it with a big grin on his face, obviously joking and I laughed it off, but driving away the more annoyed I started to feel

now bearing in mind I'm on day 3 of giving up smoking and therefore prone to massive over reaction, he was out of order saying that wasn't he?

OP posts:
Xales · 27/08/2012 17:20

I think you are over reacting.

It sounds like he was joking just like your DD.

Sorry

scurryfunge · 27/08/2012 17:21

They were both being cheeky. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Original poster
workshy · 27/08/2012 17:22

no need to be sorry xales, I know I'm touchy today glad I didn't bite his head off now

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simplesusan · 27/08/2012 17:22

I wouldn't worry either.
No harm has been done.

melonandpapayaandmango · 27/08/2012 17:22

It's a bit gross IMO because it's got slightly sexual connotations. My driving instructor was a right old pervert and he was always saying he would take me over his knee and spank me when I made a mistake Hmm (I was 17 at the time) so I don't like "jokes" like that.

I think he probably was just joking though ...

onedev · 27/08/2012 17:23

I agree with Xales.

Viperidae · 27/08/2012 17:23

If he'd said it straightfaced you might have a point but it sounds like he was just joining in with your DDs banter. Sometimes shopworkers can't win, if they say nothing they're stuck-up and po-faced but if they join in it's offensive.

I think you are over-reacting

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 27/08/2012 17:23

It sounds like he was joking. What's bugging you - is it because he's a man and she's a girl? I doubt he was being pervy, I suppose he could have been, but it's not the first thing that would occur to me.

WhoWhatWhereWhen · 27/08/2012 17:24

It was a joke, relax

Mollydoggerson · 27/08/2012 17:24

No, he was just passing the time of day, in a jokey conversation where people were being or intending to be generally disrespectful to each other. Banter.

Markingthehours · 27/08/2012 17:24

I hate hearing spoilt children being disrespectful to adults and not being picked up on it.

I agree with him and wouldn't be joking Shock

FallenCaryatid · 27/08/2012 17:24

I'd start smoking again before you kill someone.
So no one is allowed to joke in your vicinity about your darling cocky little madam?
Trust me, by the end of the week, she'll want to leave home if this is you on day 3.

Original poster
workshy · 27/08/2012 17:26

my DD is not a darling little madam, she gets pulled up on her attitude when needed, which isn't often

it wasn't the man/girl thing

it was the smacking thing

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AlmostAHipster · 27/08/2012 17:27

He was just joshing around. I wouldn't have been offended at that and I'm really arsey sensitive to inappropriate public comments.

FriedEggsAndHam · 27/08/2012 17:27

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pictish · 27/08/2012 17:28

Forget it. It's nothing.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 27/08/2012 17:30

Oh, then I think you are being a bit sensitive. It's part of society's vernacular to threaten violence against children. I tell DS2 he needs a good punch up the bracket

Not sure this is helping ..... Confused

msrisotto · 27/08/2012 17:30

It's actually nothing. Honest to god, he was quite clearly joking.

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 27/08/2012 17:31

I hasten to add that I don't smack, or punch people up the bracket. Interesting that it's a jokey thing to say ...

CommaChameleon · 27/08/2012 17:32

You said yourself, he was joking in the same way that she was.

Neither were particularly funny jokes but I think YABU to let it get to you so much.

valiumredhead · 27/08/2012 17:32

So your dd can joke but not anyone else?

BillyBollyBandy · 27/08/2012 17:33

That's not even cheeky from your daughter though, if you both know she is joking. That's just her teasing you.

Wouldn't bother about what the man said, if he was smiling he presumably knew she was joking

FallenCaryatid · 27/08/2012 17:34

Ciggies, that's the answer to the rage problem. We used to live in fear of the times my dad kept giving up, he was foul and bad tempered for the whole time he was doing cold turkey.
SOH fail for him too.

Softlysoftly · 27/08/2012 17:46

What the hell is a bracket on a person? Sounds painful?

He was joking but like pp I hate the "over my knee" thing gives me the wiggins even if it's not meant that way.

And yes I think you should be kept away from the public until the nicotines fully out of your system!

JamieandTheOlympicTorch · 27/08/2012 19:24

Softly

I am not even sure. It's just an Essex saying. I always assume it means jaw.

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