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Waitingforastartofall · 27/08/2012 11:12

Warning this is incredibly petty,My friend is organising a get together of school friends, we are all 22-25 and dont see each other much anymore since work,family ect took over.

We will probably go to local pub for a few hours in the daytime, she has invited someone i went out with when i was 15, we were best friends up until our 20's and he is my sons godfather.
I havent seen him for over a year because his new girlfriend didnt like our relationship and thought it was weird that he still got on so well with his ex, she basically told him if he carried on being friends with me or seeing his godson she wouldnt stay with him. She has sent me abusive messages on facebook accusing me of trying to steal him despite me having a partner, and 3 children ( 2 SC's). Since then we have had no contact, deleted number,blocked on facebook(sorry i know its the devil!) and no word to his godson on his birthdays,christmas.

Do i go to the get together as its a chance to see all my old friends together or stay away because if she comes with him im not going to feel comfortable all afternoon. She was very agressive with her messages and said alot of personal things that my supposed friend had told her about my life ect, at the time she was messaging my mum was in intensive care after a major op ( she has cancer and had to have half a lung removed) so i wasnt very receptive with arguments just told her to do what she has to to save her relationship hence why we no longer speak.

I really want to see my friends, but dont want to see this girl. Or make it so my old friend cant go to the get together just because im there :(

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Nanny0gg · 27/08/2012 11:14

Whether he goes or not is not your problem. Nor is his paranoid g/f.

If you want to see the others (do they know about all this?) then by all means go.

Gumby · 27/08/2012 11:16

Ask friend who's organising if this girl will be there

Waitingforastartofall · 27/08/2012 11:16

my friend whos organising knows about all the grief ive got from her and that we dont speak. she doesnt know quite how personal this girl was in her messages. Thanks, id like to think im not BU to go, its just been playing on my mind. It doesnt happen very often so if i dont go im not likely to see most of them for a good few years

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chocoluvva · 27/08/2012 11:17

Yes, go. Stay out of the way of your old friend's partner though.

Waitingforastartofall · 27/08/2012 11:17

the general idea seems to be if male friend goes she will go with, if she doesnt come with then he wont be coming.

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LindyHemming · 27/08/2012 11:18

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Waitingforastartofall · 27/08/2012 11:20

Lol i did have spectacular plans to dump my pitcher of cheeky v over her head but would like to remain the bigger person even if its not nearly as satisfying

It does make me sad, he was my best friend and now he wont even look at me if we happen to cross paths in the town. But i suppose we live and learn

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Happybunny12 · 27/08/2012 11:23

Definitely go. You can't let her (or him) stop you living your life. She sounds insecure and selfish, he sounds weak. Sit at the other end of the table though- you don't need to court trouble.

CanoeSlalom · 27/08/2012 11:23

Go along anyway and stay with the people you like best. Then if she says anything bitchy it would have to be in front of everyone.

Waitingforastartofall · 27/08/2012 11:28

Id sit at the other end anyway, i suck at arguing and would probably just cry hence not making me look like the headstrong harlot she thinks i am

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TastesLikePanda · 27/08/2012 11:35

If she say's something horrible, call her on it and don't be afraid to cry... it will make her look like the bitch she sounds like and in front of plenty of witnesses as well.

I wouldn't normally reccomend this but you could also throw in lots of 'Why would you say something so cruel' and then draw attention to her

Disclaimer - I am very immature sensitive and I tend to cry during arguements as well...

Waitingforastartofall · 27/08/2012 11:39

Lol that's v clever, and slightly sneaky. Like your style :)

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MrsTomHardy · 27/08/2012 11:42

Definately go....why should you miss out.

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