to insist on waiting until the good hefty drugs and gin have kicked in properly before.......

[SheelaNeGig]

Taking the Ds school shopping.

DD1 no longer needs uniform so she'll be needing sensible clothes. Not see through leggingd. Pointy heels and crop tops

DD2 has aspergers. She hates school. It stresses her. She also hates shopping as clothes have to look and feel exactly right. Which is almost impossible.

Combine the sensory issues with what shops have available, what she wants, what feels wrong with the school uniform rules and see if anything is right.

She also needs shoes. See above issue and add odd shaped feet into the mix just for the sheer hell of it.

Ten sodding years i have been doing this before every new term. TEN YEARS.

The prospect of this makes me actually nauseous.

I know she can't deal with it.

I know I can't deal with her not dealing with it.

So i'm considering taking some of the really hefty hurting back drugs and washing them down with gin.
DD1 will have to drivd but what the hell

Ten.

Years.

That is approximately 25+ pairs of school shoes.

25 times I have done this. Plus uniform shopping.

My guts are churning.

I have also just remembered she needs a bag.

YANBU! Pull out all the sensory calming tricks and just go for it when it's over have a massive takeout and chocolate cake at home to celebrate

I have no calming thingys that work. Except gin and she's a bit young for thst.

It'll be fine. Go right now before the shops get any busier though.

Online shopping is your friend!!

Not really any help but the last weekend before term starts is going to be hell for anyone, maybe start a bit earlier next time (ducks)

Moving on, is there any bribe that works with dd2? Anything at all that will calm and help?

With dd1, can she be trusted to buy for herself?

Valium?

Valium with gin.

No point in trying to do it earlier. I'm not allowed to mention school during the holidays. Doing it earlier would mean her having to think about it before she has to.

And online doesnt work as she has to touch and feel the fabric and try it on to see what the seams are like.

Aiming for 11.

I'm dreading it too. Normally it consists of me trying to get the boys to try on a pair of trousers, then the other wanders off and starts to crawl military style under the displays. If I turn my back on them they're gone.I get shouty.
Everyone looks. Makes judgements. Jeremy Kyle mum. Oh look that shouty mum and out of control kids. I now buy massive trousers with the draw string elastic, and shorten them.

Give dd1 a budget, dd2's uniform list and let her take dd2 shopping?
You sit back and leave them to it.:)

Juu that would end in bloodshed and murder.

You can massively over order online and return everything that DD2 can't wear. The only thing I think you have to do in person is shoes.

How old is DD1 that she doesn't need school clothes? If she is going into sixth form I think you should just be handing over the budget and leaving it up to her. I have done this with DS1 though recognise its probably easier with a DS than a DD.

Just give dd1 enough money to go shopping herself (or with friends) and sort herself out?
You just have dd2 to buy uniform for then.
How about that?

I feel your pain, although DS is fairly simple. Once I've found something he likes and can tolerate, I just buy 5 of them. Sure, it looks like he's wearing the same clothes every day, but who cares? Not him for sure.
I was bothered when he left school last year as we had uniform down to a tee and it was easy. Now he's been at college a year, it's been a minefield of shopping and touching and patting things to check they are OK before he even tries them on.

Gin and drugs and deep breathing.

mysteryfairy why is it easier with a ds than a dd?

Online and return what she doesn't like.

A faff, but must be less stressful, surely?

Oh, and I agree with cutting DD1 loose and letting her shop for herself.
You can set a few limits if it's your money she's using, like shoes she can wear all day without whinging.

I think it's harder for a ds to buy inappropriate stuff - you don't really get skimpy clothes or high heels for boys.

No high-heels or skimpy skirts but I think boys can find their own version of inappropriate dress if they were so inclined

DD1 actually wants to come. Which is odd.
So far DD2 is in a remarkably good mood.

Maybe...... Just maybe......... It won't be so bad?

Good luck!

DD1 says her school shoes will do another term. So I'm able to put off the worst job.

She is quite capable of getting out every pair of shoes or boots in the shop and not buying anything. She's not bothered by fashion, they just have to be comfortable.

DD2 needs new shoes, but she's way easier. We had a bit of a compromise over skirt length, but I see her point. The HT is being totally unrealistic.

Good luck OP and I send chilled San Miguel and a curry from our very good Indian for you to enjoy this evening.

Halfway down the list. Got a bag and shirts but the trousers are proving problematic.

In new look. Need gin.

Order 190 different pairs online. Most places do free returns these days

She can try on at her leisure at home in her own time

Send back the wrong uns

4 billion pairs of trousers and none of thrm fit. She's impossible.

We have trousers!

As usual the shoe issue tipped us all over the edge.

She is shoeless. I can't do it agsin. Its DHs turn. I resign.