My Parents are retired. DF is a hoader and two spare bedrooms piled to the rafters, house is not pleasant everything is choke bloka often piled dangerously. loft gardens and shed full and he has taken on an allotment which my mum says people are bow complaining about because he cat keep on top of it. In the past I he tried to talk about it, have cleared the shed out only for him to refuse to get rid or sell anything (he had four very expensive drills for example yet never does a bit of DIY) and once the rubbish had been skipped at his reluctance get just re piled the shed up. DH took timeoff to.do up their disgusting bathroom as a favour they just paid for the tiles, paint etc. as they had taken to only being able to shower at the swimming pool... within months it was back to same situation piled with half empty bottles, products, towels clothes airers etc. they now only shower at the gtm where they go swimming. My sister moved tl Wales and will become estranged eventually as they won't clear the bedrooms for her and kids to stay on their visits