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nicknames vs christian name

30 replies

dubbada · 27/08/2012 07:42

so start the schoool run in sept will be introducing myself as what?

lizzy vs elizabeth
nikki vs nicola
vikki vs victoria
etc

i use both but want to be seen as approacable but sensilble!
(yes its private school)

OP posts:
LittleBlackDress · 27/08/2012 07:46

I'd use whichever you prefer normally with your friends - whichever you prefer to be called.

picnicbasketcase · 27/08/2012 07:46

Introducing yourself to whom? I don't think any of the other parents at my DC school know my name, and I do speak to some of them. I would feel very odd going up to people I barely know and who haven't asked and telling them my name

dubbada · 27/08/2012 07:48

basket case only thoses that are interested lol
otherwise migt get a rep for being school ground stalker!

OP posts:
EdithWeston · 27/08/2012 07:48

Use the name you're generally known by. Or if you've been hankering for a change, the name you want to be known as.

Tee2072 · 27/08/2012 07:51

So you speak to people but don't introduce yourself, picnic? Okay.

Use whatever name you usually use, OP.

picnicbasketcase · 27/08/2012 07:59

I don't have in depth conversations with any of them, more of a few quick words in passing. People don't tend to stand around for ages chatting, they are there to drop off or pick up their children. None of the other parents have ever told me their names either. Everyone just recognises each other as being 'so and so's mum/dad'. That's not that weird is it?

Anyway, OP, go for whatever makes you comfortable.

Shakirasma · 27/08/2012 08:02

What a strange question, surely you would just introduce yourself as whatever you normally do when meeting acquaintances?

The only reason I can think of for such a question is that you don't think your shortened name sounds posh enough to impress at a private school.

Tee2072 · 27/08/2012 08:02

Well, I think it's a bit weird if your children are friends and going over to each other's houses. But if they're not, then I guess not.

Disclaimer: My son isn't in school yet. He starts on 24th September! But I still can't imagine not telling people my name...

honeytea · 27/08/2012 08:09

I'd go for "hello I'm insert short name, dc's name's mum"

ThisIsNotHoneyDragon · 27/08/2012 08:13

It really doesn't matter, as from this September for the next 20 years you will be known simply as [dc name]s Mum. Grin

gothicangel · 27/08/2012 08:13

i would use your proper name, im not a fan of shorten names,

seeker · 27/08/2012 08:20

Please will somebody tell me why the fact that it'a a private school is relevant?

But. I suppose it is marginally posher to use "y" rather than "i" to end shortenings.

And there are some abbreviations that are posher than others. Not sure why.

dubbada · 27/08/2012 08:23

seeker y vs i exactly
shakira don be so serious its monday morning light hearted thread
lol

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seeker · 27/08/2012 08:25

Liz, Nick or Tory.

dubbada · 27/08/2012 08:26

tory might be seen as to political? nick to asexual? liz a royalist?

OP posts:
seeker · 27/08/2012 08:46

To seem proper posh, call yourself a particularly bizarre childhood nickname. Floppy, or Plods or Flip.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 27/08/2012 08:54

FFS.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 27/08/2012 08:55

Blush just seen the light hearted thread reference Blush

AKissIsNotAContract · 27/08/2012 08:57

Bunty.

iggi777 · 27/08/2012 09:18

I have spoken to about six parents since pfb started school last week. None of these conversations have included an exchange of names, just references to our progeny! So what you need to worry about is what you called the child...

EnjoyResponsibly · 27/08/2012 09:34

Introduce yourself by whatever derivation of your name you wish to be known for at least the next 8 years.

DSs class are quite close knit, I see most mothers every day and then at weekends for parties. There are still a few names I dont know (eg where the mums name wasn't on the RSVP for an invite) and after a year it seems weird asking them Grin

EnjoyResponsibly · 27/08/2012 09:39

You have just got one actual name though, I haven't had coffee yet and I'm worried you've got at least 3 Christian names Grin

As an aside, school is probably the only place where I am called MrsEnjoyResponsibly by the head, the secretary and all the teachers. It makes me feel well old.

MammaTJisanOlympicSumoWrestler · 27/08/2012 09:48

The deputy head has known me for years and always calls me by my first name!! The HT is very young (in my very old eyes) and calls me Mrs DCs surname, not mine.

Most of the mums know my name. We all went to toddler groups together and saw our DCs through pre-school. We all chat too.

I would introduce myself by my given name. People generally ask if you mind it shortened.

Spuddybean · 27/08/2012 10:04

i don't see shortenings or abbreviations as 'nicknames' to me nick names are something not related to your name which you appear to have inherited (from some hilarious escapade perhaps involving a duck and only one shoe or something!) :)

A lot of people have long names and use the shortening. I know loads of Alex, Nick, and Daves etc. Mine is a long name and i use the short - it would be a right gob full if i didn't!

Why not take this opportunity to make up an whole new persona and introduce yourself as something totally different 'hello i'm aloysius crochetcheese' Or some such :)

Scholes34 · 27/08/2012 10:23

What does it matter? You'll only ever be known as dubbada's DC's mum.

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