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AIBU?

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msnaughty · 26/08/2012 13:44

hi, i have a friend who really helps me out. with decorating and that sort of thing. she likes doing it she is one of them people that cant stop once she has started. and she has loads of ideas about what we are going to do to my house wich i dont mind.

but somethings do my head in such as when we are stripping the wall paper. she will do 3 walls, whilst im only on my first and then i get omg thats all you have done i have done 3 walls, but she forgets that every 2 mins is can you get me.. can you do this, can you do that. so im never just left to just get on with what im doing.

today i did not get up until just before 12. and she knew this. she rings me at 1pm going have you have dinner yet. when i say no she like oh why not we are eating ours now. i will give you a ring after and we will be up. i have not even started my dinner. i dont know how she thinks i can get up at 12 and be eating dinner by 1pm. i need to tisy my house as it looks like a bomb but i want to do it on my own.

There are somethings i could not have done without her and she has been a god send. but i get a bit fed up with the put downs or because i do things different to her. i think she likes to take charge of things. because i have been so easy going with things its now hard to be more assertive towards her.

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TidyDancer · 26/08/2012 13:46

What's the AIBU? I'm not the thread police like some on here, but I'm not sure what you want people to say.

minikimmi · 26/08/2012 13:46

She's obviously childless.

msnaughty · 26/08/2012 14:02

tidy as i said was just sounding of really. was nt sure where to post. i have not been a memeber for long. and stil not sure what gos where

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SoleSource · 26/08/2012 14:08

Next time your friend suggests a time to meet just tell her ypu wil let her know.

Maybe your friend is trying to.motivate you...

TidyDancer · 26/08/2012 14:18

I wasn't telling you off for post here msnaughty, just wasn't sure what you wanted people to say.

There's three ways of dealing with people like this. You can accept this is how it will always be, you can do something to change it, or you can remove them from your life. You need to decide which option you are happiest with and move towards it.

Salmotrutta · 26/08/2012 14:46

She sounds very bossy to me.

I appreciate you say she has helped a lot but she is bullying you a bit if she has loads of ideas about what we are going to do to my house wich i dont mind. I wouldn't like that one bit.

WorraLiberty · 26/08/2012 14:50

Sounds to me like she thinks you're lazy and that irritates her.

Personally, I wouldn't ask someone like that for help.

I'd get on with my house myself in my own time.

msnaughty · 26/08/2012 20:55

oops after my moan it was such a good day. i was more assertive just little things like telling her to wait rather than asking her to. and managed to get loads done. so im happy.

we are very oppisit to each other. her house is spotless and mine often gets messy but my children have alot of freedom within the house but hers do not. when she is not happy for some reason she wants to constantly clean and decorate. when im not happy i find it hard to keep on top of things. so really do need her pushing sometimes

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SoleSource · 26/08/2012 20:59

I am glad you jad a good day with your good caring friend.

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