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in being pissed off at the way DP spoke to DS tonight when he wouldn't eat his tea

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Morph2 · 25/08/2012 20:45

DS (2.3) is generally a good eater, likes his veggies etc but sometimes he doesn't want to eat his dinner. I was a terribly fussy eater as a child and DS is way way better then i ever was. When he doesn't want to eat his food, i don't make a big deal about him having to eat it, he just doesn't get anything else instead.

tonight we were having tea together (we only really eat all together at the weekends as due to work this would make tea too late in the week). DS wouldn't eat any of his. DP is making a big deal about it saying he can't watch anymore telly tonight unless he eats his tea, then he can't watch any telly tomorrow either. The more he goes on the less likely DS is to eat anything so he ends up eating nothing. DS ends up in tears, i'm nearly in tears, DP keeps getting food on the fork and trying to push it into DS's mouth.

DP says DS needs to learn to eat his dinner, i don't want the dinner table to become a battle ground, when i'm with him on my own in the week and the days i'm at work when my mum looks after him he is generally good at eating although on ocassions he doesn't eat much.

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Sossiges · 25/08/2012 21:24

There's no way that I would let anyone try to force feed my kids. Your DP sounds like a right arse. I would tie him in his chair and force feed him and see how he likes it.

QuangleWangleQuee · 25/08/2012 21:24

Your approach is fine, but your DP is a bully and is going to turn the dinner table into a battleground. 2 is the peak age for fussy eating, but they tend to grow out of it. Your dp will end up giving your son food issues. 2 is so young.

nocake · 25/08/2012 22:20

The suggestions to force feed your DP aren't too far off the mark. Imagine a restaurant where you had to eat every scrap of food on your plate, where if you didn't like or want something a waiter would appear and shout at you, where you weren't allowed to leave until your plate was clean and if you continued to refuse to eat you'd be held down and force fed. It sounds ridiculous but that's exactly the situation your DP is creating.

JustFabulous · 26/08/2012 11:16

You are doing brilliantly to try and give your son a good attitude about food when you are so fussy yourself. Your DP is a bully and needs to be told to stop. Is your son, his?

cybbo · 26/08/2012 11:19

Can I ask why you didn't intervene at the table?

PissyDust · 26/08/2012 11:26

My dad used to do this with me, I soon became very good at hiding my food.

I have a terrible relationship with food even now.

You need to speak to your DH and stop this happening again.

Enfyshedd · 26/08/2012 11:27

I agree with nocake. I was, and still am a fussy eater at 30, although I'm better than I was (DP has been a good influence and encouraged me while I was pg with DD). One of my biggest hangups has been the catered (not homecooked) "roast dinner" since I was 7 - that was when the school assistant forcefed me a whole school cooked dinner in the dinner hall in front of everyone after I didn't like it and didn't want to eat it. Immediately afterwards, I ran to the toilets to be sick, and it took me until I was 25 until I ate a roast dinner that wasn't cooked by my DM, DGP's or me again. I am not exaggerating!

I an determined not to allow my DD to end up with the same issues I've had. DP & I have an agreement that during weaning, if we're introducing a food I don't like, then he'll feed her so she doesn't pick up on it. Fingers crossed this approach works.

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