right my 13yo autistic dc has every other fri evening contact with his dad. he collects between 4pm and 6pm and dc has at least 3 hours with him. this contact arangement is court ordered and was dads choice as dad felt he couldnt keep up with any more contact.he has no other type of contact. no phone calls letters nothing. again his choice.back story is some years ago he kept taking me to court in an attempt to prevent dc being dx and despite the court warning him he continued to keep bringing me to court over silly things he was eventually found to be being vextatious (think ive got the word right) he was given a significant telling off after admitting atempting to snatch dc and take him abroad several orders were issued as a result of his actions and he even said in court that i had done nothing wrong hadnt hindered him in any way the court was happy to not grant any contact order as it wasnt needed but i asked for him to be awarded one he could cope with as it was a good way for dc to understand his routine.and figured dad would be happyer with that.
if dad needs to change for any reason or wants extra time i allways say yes regardless of my plans,i never ever mess him about (i do get him to ask in writing either txt or letter so i can make sure there are no mix ups)
i have not got the dates mixed up or anything like that but hes just not shown up today ive tried all his numbers left messages and texted all his mobiles that i know he is using.all polite messages saying "what time are you coming xxx is waiting and looking forward to seeing you"
on one of these phone calls the phone was answered and i heard dad say" its just the cunt she will...." then phone put down. all the other calls went to answer machine.
its worked fairly well for 7 years but dad has got himself envolved with a gf with a huge drink problem,normally she is kept away from dc tho but this has happened about 6 times in the last year since dad has been with this gf.
he has never offered any reason for it befor and just refuses to converse with me other than hello/bye hows the weather type thing.any thing else is phone hang up or handed to gf who screams drunken abuse down the phone.
chances are he will not bother to do anything other than show up in 2 weeks.
but so far dc has cried and screamed for over an hour smashed up his room messed himself (and he was doing so well with this aspect) and is now akip in a heap on his bedroom floor.
i want to go to dads house and punch him but obviously i wouldnt.
so what would be reasonable