Organised a hen night last Saturday for best friend, me and one of the other hen's bought everyone's outfit in advance by agreement with everyone. One girl bailed a few days before citing stress, the hen's other best friend. She suddenly decided to come on the morning of the day and we ran around getting everything for her including an outfit. This woman arrived with a fiver on her and made the hen buy her dinner (we had bought the hen's dinner already, but kind of objected to shelling the cash for her). When we went on to the roller disco, we had to lend her money on the door, and the Hen had to lend her money to buy drinks all night, whilst I spent over £100 on drinks for the hen. She didn't chip in for the gift or the drinks or clothes so far. I sent her a quick message asking if it would be possible to have just at least a contribution, to which I got the following reply:
"You didn't have to buy drinks all night. You knew I had her purse/money and there was only short periods when I wasn't around, so please don't play on that or the fact that I came with an empty purse. I had no opportunity to get to a cash machine before the roller disco but you could buy drinks with your card, so there was no worries, why didn't you just ask if I could buy a round? was kind enough to lend me the entrance money, she didn't mind giving me that, I paid her back the next day. Don't imagine that * gave a care for any of it, we buy each other stuff all the time, it really was no biggie.
I told you that I appreciated how much you did for 's hen do but you didn't have to be such a martyr with the taxi for or with the drinks for *. I know you wanted to give her a great night but we all did and it was a success, I had one of the best nights I've had in years and I'm very glad I came.
Your emails trying to get me to attend made me so frustrated but if I really wasn't going to come I would have told * in a personal email, which I never did because I always knew there was a chance I would make it. I just got tired of all the emails.
You did such a good job of organising the event but you should have relaxed more on the night out, you didn't need to be in so much control.
* knows how much you care for her regardless of if you threw her a hen party or not. I know you care for her greatly too and am so thankful that you organised this event. "
Am I being unreasonable to be absolutely furious? Its not like I am laden with cash I am a single mum with a 3 year old DS.