The Scottish ASN system is very, very hard on parents. Trying to get support for my AS sons actually made my DH ill and put him on medication. it got to the point where he couldn't even go through the school gates.
We had meetings where we thought we were meeting with the head teacher and class teacher and we found that we were actually meeting with the council's legal team when we got there. We weren't allowed access to agendas or minutes for any of our meetings. We were actually told "Wait until the new tribunals come into effect and take us to one if you like. It'll take a minimum of 3 years and you'll get nowhere.) We were told that the council wasn't prepared to support or sons because they didn't want to spend the money.
the PS head teacher lied to our faces and to representatives from the council and the secondary school. Another head teacher stopped the OT and the speech therapist from coming into school because it took time away from lessons (my boys were at least a year ahead of their classmates, in some subject 4 or 5 years ahead.)
One of my sons had an action plan put in place by an OT, but the school completely ignored it, they even took away things like the writing slope that had been provided and gave them to other kids. This son was bullied so badly that he had to be signed off school by the GP because it made him so unwell. The school refused to believe it because the boy involved was from a "good family" who supported the school to the tune of a couple of thousand pounds a year.
My daughter was victimised and ostracised by other children because of the way she spoke - when she was excited her tongue used to run away with her and she would become unintelligible - and because her speech therapist was Irish, she had a little touch of an accent. The school refused to do anything about it.
DS4 spent a year in nursery. All that year, the nursery staff never heard him speak to anyone, he didn't join in anything at all, he never played with another child, he wet himself every day because he wouldn't use their toilet because it meant speaking to them.......They didn't do anything, just left him to get on with it.
When we decided to take them out of school to HE, it took the council more than 3 months to agree, even though there were no CP issues or anything like that. They were phoning and emailing me daily, contacting my husband at work daily, turning up on my doorstep to inspect my "first aid provisions". They sent me out timetables and equipment lists. You name it.
The school system in this country has almost given my husband and I nervous breakdowns. Compared to what we have experienced, the statementing process in england doesn't seem to bad.