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To have told this mum what I saw happening to her baby?

19 replies

BuntCadger · 23/08/2012 16:34

At a large country park today with my family. I was sat on a bench, and by the bench next to me was a baby boy of about 1 in his pram and an older child/young adult girl with him. She was holding her phone close to baby's hand so he could almost reach and as he went to she took it. Then she deliberately put it back there and made it play some noise and then took it out of his reach. He was getting upset and frustrated clearly. She kept doing this about 5x or more. Then as he was on very he of tears she it it in is reach and as he touched it she snatched it completely away. He dissolved in tears at this point(had dummy on mouth which fell out with his crying). She picked up his dummy and shoved it Hardin his mouth as he continued to cry. It was awful to watch. At this point, I didn't know if she was mum. She was physically disabled and in wheelchair. A bit later when I returned to the seat the girl was walking the baby around with him on his reins. Another older woman was asking her to be careful with him, and there were other members of the family.

I asked the older woman if the baby was her son, which he was and told her what I had seen. She said thank you and that she could be like that and wasn't suprised. I felt that if it was my baby, I'd want to know. So was I wrong to say something?

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FunnysInLaJardin · 23/08/2012 16:36

no not wrong, and she presumably wasn't offended? I hate to see a small child being teased like that.

BuntCadger · 23/08/2012 16:37

No she wasn't offended and seemed thankful

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Frontpaw · 23/08/2012 16:37

No nothing wrong at all. If it was a nanny or older sibling, wouldn't you want to be told?

You didn't confront or tut tut, you asked out of concern, and voiced a mothers concern. She did say thank you - so is aware if her behaviour towards the child.

cheesesarnie · 23/08/2012 16:39

yanbu. you said it nicely.

ChickensArentEligableForGold · 23/08/2012 16:39

YANBU. I hate spite.

Birdsgottafly · 23/08/2012 16:41

No, you wasn't wrong and if she is aware of that behaviour towards the baby, then she is at fault for not supervising them at all times, she doesn't know how things will escalate and babies are easily injured.

WineGoggles · 23/08/2012 16:42

No, I don't think you were wrong to tell her and it's lovely you took the trouble to. Poor little lad Sad

dontcallmehon · 23/08/2012 16:44

No, YANBU. It was nice of you to get involved.

BuntCadger · 23/08/2012 16:44

I just thought that he couldn't speak up for himself and it was spiteful, not play. I felt so sad for him. He was a real cutie. Apologies for atrocious typing in op

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gothicangel · 23/08/2012 16:44

yanbu,

poor little mite x

Frontpaw · 23/08/2012 16:45

Bunt - you were right, we all agree. Not you'd better back off the thread because I am sure someone is at to come along and tell you how wrong wrong wrong you were etc.

But you we right. Yes you were.

StateofConfusion · 23/08/2012 17:32

Yanbu, I'd far rather know. Poor little mite! I hate behaviour like that being mean for no reason what so ever.

TroublesomeEx · 23/08/2012 18:24

Well in case Frontpaw is right and someone isn't going to come along with a NOYB, I'm going to add to the YANBUs.

I would have wanted someone to tell me this too.

LilyCocoplatt · 23/08/2012 18:46

YANBU but sadly if the baby's mum didn't seem surprised and pretty much said that was typical behaviour then I don't see it making much difference.

5madthings · 23/08/2012 18:50

yanbu, i am always grateful if people tell me they have seen any of my children misbehaving/fighting etc.

today however i got told how lovely and kind and caring my children were Grin proud mummy boastful moment

SoleSource · 23/08/2012 18:56

Yadnbu

well done x

vigglewiggle · 23/08/2012 19:00

Why would that be an unreasonable thing to do? Confused

DozyDuck · 23/08/2012 19:41

No not unreasonable. She said thanks. She was physically disabled you say, she could possibly have lds as well and be very rough. Agree she should be supervised

RightBuggerforit · 23/08/2012 19:44

You were right to tell her. Given her reaction though, I wonder why on earth she would leave the baby with the nasty girl at all. If it was my baby, the two of them would never be unsupervised together.

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