Aibu to not know what to say.....

[Mrbojangles1]

Right my sister who is a single mother wants my nephew (10) to come and stay for the week

Which is fine the problem comes i have a son who is 13 and can come a go in loal area as he like with in reason (he is very well behaved) and is very much a stickler for the rules

My sister has this idea that my nephew will be hanging around with my son but my son wants nothing yo do with it, my nephews rather wild and before the hold was enjoying a exlusion for taking a lighter into school a buring a curtian

My son dose not to be in charge of any body else and is rather worried nephew might doing somthing silly and get him or them both in to bother they are very diffrent in any case last time he was here ds whent to stay with his granddad after two days he couldn't take it.

I love my nephew and and happy for him to come my sister needs a break but i will be looking after him and this notion of them going off into the summer sun to have fun is not going to happen.

What should i say to my sister i dont want her to be cross with ds and i know if i say anything it may get her back up and she wont send him (she really needs a break she is on her own and everyone needs some time alone now and then)

Not sure what to do or say HELP

Sorry for the (sp)

Say no, say you are not prepared to leave a 10 year old in teh care of a 13 year old for a week.

Unless you are prepared to loook after him yourself? Will you be working? If not you could leave your own son to get on with stuff and take your nephew out with you.

if it were me i would have him, and i would try and arrange some times when he could be with your son, but not all the time... still allow your son his freedom.
but i wonder if your sister thinks that your son could be a good influence on him?
perhaps if you did a few activities together, but your son also got to go out by himself that would work?

you can also say that if there is any bad behaviour your nephew will be going straight home?

Explain that it is unfair to expect your DS to look after a child, but that you're happy to do so. :)

Sorry some may have got the wrong end of the cheese i will be here at home but as it summer hold son wonders off to the park, mates into town that sort of thing and i think by the sound of what my sister was saying she was hoping nephew would be goung round with ds most of the time

i feel very nervous she is on edge at the mo and i am worried she may take it badly

Does she need to be 'told'? Just don't do it that way when he arrives.

Wrong end of the cheese