to be fuming at GCSE results?

[cherrypez]

Quite prepared to be told I'm BU. DD, year 10, got a B, some Cs but also a D and two Es. Considering she is capable and was predicted As and Bs I'm mightily pissed off with her as she admits she didn't revise. I'm starting to feel a bit guilty for being so cross with her. Should I look at it as a lesson learned and hope she pulls it together for year 11? Or pile on the pressure?

Were these mocks, or did she take them a year early and now has to retake next year?

To be honest I would be a bit hacked off but piling on the pressure might make her rebel. Why not talk to her about it and ask if you can help her in any way.

YABU to be fuming, yes.

Disappointed, maybe, but not fuming.

what a shame if she was expected to do so much better. I don't know, usually I think it works best if you can leave off saying something for a bit but if you are angry, you're angry.

I am not sure if she will pull it together for year 11 without pressure. Give some thought to how and where she revises and whether or not she has decent study skills. Those things you can improve. What else can you change to give her more time for revising or more incentive to get on with it?

Don't pile on the pressure! That won't work, it will only cause rebellion.

As someone who achieved highly in my GCSEs, I realised soon after that no-one cares if you get a C or and A!

Why has she done so many a year early?

Fuming with whom?

Yabu.... You didn't notice she wasn't revising? You didn't check?

She's probably annoyed with herself. It sounds like she knows she didn't work as hard as she could have done. I'd give her a chance to show she has learned her lesson if she is going on to sixth form and try and guide her away from making the same mistake twice.

Sounds a lot like me when I was younger and I managed good A level results, a degree and a PGCE. All without being told off, just a bit of a chat about trying harder, knowing I could do better etc.

I understand your disappointment. My daughter is seriously gifted academically, but very lazy. She got her IB diploma by the skin of her teeth. You just have to draw the line and look to the future.

I wouldn't "pile on" the pressure. She might be genuinely devastated at her results, having fully "believed the hype" and expected to get those As and Bs.
I did this with my pfb, he got a poor mark for one subject that he was always told he was good at, and I said some things about it, and automatically assumed he just hadn't worked or tried, but had coasted on the back of thinking he was good enough to do well without putting the work in, and he was devastated. He burst into tears - it turned out he had tried his best, but had got something mixed up and gone very wrong, and he was very upset.
Try not to go off half cocked and say anything that will alienate her from her studies completely. I have a feeling schools like to predict good results for reasons of their own, too.
How did you do in your school examns btw? As well as your parents wanted? or as well as you could? Fuming is a bit strong - it's not like she has deliberately done badly just to piss you off...

Actually Bumgrapes, I disagree. GCSE grades are very important to university applications and also initial employers. They might not be 20 years later.

Well given that if she was just about to enter Y10, she wouldn't be able to take GCSEs early, I think you need to be questioning why she was entered for so many so early, as well as her work ethic. I don't see the point, personally. If she'd have achieved well in all of them, what would she have been doing in year 11?

GCSEs are only important if you are applying for oxbridge surly?

i have never had to delcare my results at any job interview- and aside putting it on my UCAS, have never had any dealings with GCSEs since

Dont put the pressure....i am sure she feels bad already, just hope she does better at A levels

A levels? You have to have the gcse grades to be accepted on A level courses these days.

Look at this as an opportunity. She has seen the result of not putting in the work . Now is the time to get serious with encouragement for next year. She now knows she needs to put in the graft to to do better.
It's good you found this out now and not at GCSE.
Start slowly with a realistic revision plan. Reward hard work
Don't get cross - counter productive IME
Shell have realised a few things herself today and hopefully the penny will drop.
Good luck but keep calm

kizza she won't be doing A levels without good grades at GCSE. I have had to tell every employer I have ever had my GCSE results and to get in to college.

You can't get a job at lidl with out a c or above in maths.

To expand on my point.

I have very good GCSE results. I also have A-levels, a degree, and a post-grad degree. I had to state my GCSEs to apply for my A-Levels, but could have got in with the old 5 grades A*-C anyway.

I found the A-Levels overrode any GCSE results I had, and when I got my degree, no-one gave a fig about my grades before that.

So, assuming OPs daughter will be carrying on her studies post GCSE I don't think it matters....

I wish people were more bothered about GCSE results - I wanted to shout mine from the rooftops for years. No-one cares...

I think some early bad results can be good for them, as it will be a shock, but she still has time to work hard, resit them and achieve her potential. This will be the end of Year 10 papers - which will contribute a % towards the final GCSE results next year.

I would talk to her calmly about her results, sympathise, ask her how she feels, and what, with hindsight, she could have done better. Ask her how you can help her to do better next time..

I hire graduates for a blue chip company, and I certainly look at GCSE results, as part of the big picture. If a candidate has a good degree, but poor A level results, then good GCSE results can be the difference between an interview or not...

GCSEs are so important! I'd say for the stuff I've tried to do they're nearly as important as A levels!
At year 10/11 she is still a child, therefore you are partly responsible for her time management. Why weren't you making sure she was revising? Homework also helps GCSEs so where were you when she had homework. I'd be miffed with her laziness but also kicking myself for not making her revise.

Don't listen to posters who say 'no one cares about GCSEs' as they sadly have little idea about the realities of the graduate job market.

The company I work for has minimum A or B GCSE requirements for Maths and English and this is common amongst many of the large professional service firms. So many people apply, it's just another thing to cut down the numbers.

For several jobs I applied to recently (graduate plus prof qual level) minimum requirements were 'excellent academics' A's in key GCSEs, straight As at a level, First at uni and first time exam passes for profes qual!

My ds2 has just had his back, he's done well with A* and B's apart from English Lit where he got a C and to say he's gutted is an understatement as he felt English was his strong point. Oh well time to make Nigella's choc cake again after AS last week!
I would say don't stress at her too much, it may make her rebel. Reinforce the importance of doing good revision as she's obviously bright. Good luck!

Pom bear...I'm a teacher so did pretty well at school. These were the real exams, early entry.

I am honestly shocked about what people are saying about the job market - maybe in my sector (engineering) I am lucky to not have had to state my early qualifications then....

well i would say the school has failed her.why on earth have they entered her for so many gcses a year early?

I got brilliant mock gcse's and average gcse's

My mum was still proud of me and I still worked hard and went to uni

I'd be fuming with the school for putting her in too early, they are the ones who have let her down.