To think that DP is being an obstinate twat

[TraineeBabyCatcher]

Me and dp loathe washing up, I wouldnt say we argue about doing it but we play off each other until we can work out a more valid reason why the other should wash up.
So, my wonderful sister one day says why dont you get a compact dishwasher, we cant fit a normal one and id never heard of a compact one, DP thought this was a fantastic idea, till he realised it meant coughing up money.
Having had numerous discussing, many heated, about said dishwasher, we got one (for a meer £35!), only at one point during one of the discussions i told him using pissed off voice 'if we buy the bloody thing you never have to deal with washing up again'.

Well, 5 months on and he STILL hasnt loaded the dishwasher once, and washing up the odd thing that doesnt fit in is still a fight (i'll happily do mine now as so little to do, but if he cooks his own breakfast i tell him to clear up).

Every time i say 'I DIDNT BUY A DISHWASHER SO YOU CAN PUT YOUR STUFF ON THE SIDE', he says, 'well you said that...'

MEN!! Who'd have them?! haha

I would definately crack first, I hate mess. It doesnt bother him at all, hes a typical male.

I do the laundry mostly as i tend to do it during the day while hes at work, so i can dry it on the line, i dont mind that, though he will have to start to do it come september when i start Uni.

When my teens used to have these sort of arguements, i made the rule in the house that everyone is responsible for themselves, if we then came to a compromise or one of us was ill, then we would support each other.

Luckily enough they were mature enough to proceed on this basis,without it ever being an issue.

It doesnt bother him at all, hes a typical male.

R us sure that this isn't a deliberate wind up?

If not, then you are with a scruff, nothing to do with gender.

I think DP is a child at heart ;) Its always me that caves in as i like everything tidy. I think half the problem is that he thinks hes hilarious winding me up.

god, he sounds about 5.

Just crossed posts, i do think hes winding me up, he enjoys doing that. He would be hapy to wait till the sink was brimming before washing up, whereas i like it done asap.

Maybe that was a unfair gender comment- hes typical of all the males i am related to! lol.

thisisyesterday. When it comes to washing up, i think he is 5. It was just a jokey sort of way we dealt with it in the beginning, but now im getting fed up with doing it all the time.

Start using paper plates and plastic cutlery!

Is this symptomatic of your entire relationship? Does he consider washing-up etc to be beneath him? What do you feel about it ALWAYS being this way?

Oh this is so familar,

I am contemplating stocking up on paper plates, plastic knives/forks and disposable trays for the oven.

xpost with crispycod!

He's being a dick. Housework is a joint responsibility not your job, does he think you're his servant?

You said in your OP that you enjoyed playing each other off. The problem with this is one of you grows up and the other one still winding you up, then it goes from being funny to being irksome. His childishness will grind you down and in the end you will loose respect.

I had to have words with my OH who liked to be a wind up merchant. I made it clear that while he found it funny and wasnt't it oh so hilarious to him, that it just pissed me off more and more until it made me annoyed and I was loosing respect for him, luckily he stopped pronto.

I'd just make sure I make dinner for awhile, and serve him his dinner on HIS dirty plate. If he wants it manky, he can have it manky.

Why not just take turns?