To be a little upset that MIL pulled out my DD1's first wobbly tooth?

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DD1 was at the IL's yesterday for a sleepover (with DD2). When I phoned last night to check that they were all ok and to say good night, she told me that her granny had pulled her first wobbly tooth out and that it had hurt and bled a lot. Am I being precious to think that it wasn't MIL's place to do this? I would feel very differently if the tooth had just fallen out.

Oh for heavens sake! Mil was in loco parentis, dd was doubtless complaining about the tooth, mil acclerated the process and pulled it out. As long as she has also performed tooth fairy duties it's all good. Get over yourself.

that's really mean! i would have freaked if someone did that to me as a child, probably would have hurt :(

Yanbu. I would be very angry actually. They are supposed to fall out on their own. I would be upset she'd hurt dc and I wasn't there.

Maybe she was afraid the tooth would fall out in the middle of the night and would frighten/choke your dd?

When one of my daughters teeth fell out at 3am it scared the beejeezus out of her as the neighbours will testify . My dd1s first tooth bled quite a bit. Mind you I find teeth in general yucky and I shocked my husband by binning my daughters first tooth as soon as the tooth fairy had delivered it to me.

Bloody crackers! My DD has had a wobbly tooth for months!

She pulled your child's tooth out?! I'd be furious! When I was a toddler I swallowed two teeth, one whilst asleep and it did me now harm apart from worrying that the tooth fairy wouldn't come!

She pulled your child's tooth out?! I'd be furious! When I was a toddler I swallowed two teeth, one whilst asleep and it did me now harm apart from worrying that the tooth fairy wouldn't come!

When I was at Primary school we used to go along to our Head teachers office if we had an annoying wobbly tooth and he would pull it out for us.
He used to give us a sweetie for being brave.

Thanks. MIL has a history of slight interference, though we are very lucky to have her do childcare so I can work and dh and I can have the odd night out. She and FIL are dropping the girls back later today and will stay for dinner so I'll have a think about what to say (if anything).

I've got a friend who's a children's dentist and she always recommends yanking them out yourself I'd be grateful I didn't have to do it if it were me as teeth make me wince but if you wanted to do it I guess she shouldn't have interfered.

Do you not think it should have been pulled out at all (yet) or did you want to do it yourself?

Maybe ask MIL about what actually happened?

YANBU - part of the fun of having a wobbly tooth was to see how long it would stay in for when you spent every free moment wobbling it.

When I was 7, I was a bridemaid for a family wedding and one of my front teeth was loose. And I mean REALLY loose. My DM was cacking herself that I'd have a gappy smile for the photos (why do DM's obsess over these things? - I suppose I'll find out when DD is older). Luckily (as far as DM was concerned) it stayed in for the day, but the next day while travellling home I was wobbling it some more and we went over a bump in the road which finished it off. 50p from the toothfairy next morning.
(with a gappy smile)

I thought it should be left to fall out of its own accord, in that it would probably have gone when dd1 was eating or wobbling it herself. MIL says dd1 was complaining that it hurt, and she touched it and it fell out. I know it was nowhere near that the previous day, and dd1 said that it was a big tug, it really hurt and bled for a long time (she's pretty trustworthy on such matters whereas MIL has a tendency to exaggerate).

My dad used to pull my wobbly teeth out. I think it might have been "the thing to do back in the 70s" or something.

Anyway, I terrified my boys with these stories so now if they have a wobbly tooth they steer well clear of Grandad!

Child may be exaggerating slightly on the "it hurt and bled a lot", especially if it's her first one.

Depends how wobbly it was, I think. If it was hanging by a thread it was probably better out before she went to bed.

Ah yes, Naysa but that may well come back and bite you on the bum.

I tried to convince my ds1 to let my mum pull his 2 wobbly teeth out as they were hanging on by a thread, he wasn't having any of it. He pulled them both out himself on 2 consequetive nights. When I was a child my mum was the chief tooth puller, all the children in the street came to her to get the stubborn ones out, usually quickly and painlessly!

As a child some of my teeth fell out on their own, some were pulled out. If it was causing me a bit of bother, and it was just coming up to bed time I would usually ask my mum or dad to pull it, or sometimes do it myself.
I think you've got a bit of a nerve sending your child to grandmas so you can earn or have nights out and then complaining that she's done something wrong. It's not child abuse fgs- millions of children have their teeth pulled out.

janey I wasn't complaining. I felt a little put out and was gauging what others thought. And at no point did I say it was child abuse. I think I just wanted to be there for this "first" for my older dd, especially as it sounded like she needed a bit of comforting when it happened. That's all.

Why on earth would you pull out a tooth? They will fall out painlessly on their own! You MIL caused pain and distress when it was completely unnecessary.

Also as a child I had great enjoyment of playing with the wobbly teeth with my tongue

I don't think this is a big deal at all as long as she kept it for you.

My DH pulled out his nieces tooth as it was hanging by a thread Andes was complaining.

lisaro that's great!