fighting, other children hitting my dd

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on the first night of the summer hols, my daughter was hit around the head by three other girls because she wouldn't get off a swing, dd is 11. i reported it to the police,they visited day after, 33 days later and many phone calls and I am still waitng for this to be sorted. I think about his last thing at night and first thing when I wake up. DD wasn't hurt just shook up. All I have asked is for the other girls to be spoken to about their behaviour. I feel very let down. I was being a responsible adult and going about it the right way, but feel very let down. I can protect her during home hours, school protects during school hours. who has got her safety when she out and about??

I think you are making a bigger deal of this than what needs to be. Yes what happened is awful but its ruling your life and probably impacting your DD. Why not go to the parents yourself?

I cannot envisage a scene when I call the police over an argument about a swing. Have you explained to your daughter that she should share play equipment? Why do you expect the police to tell the other kids off?

what are you waiting for? i mean, what did the police say they would do, and what have they done? have you spoken to them again?
how do you know that they haven't been spoken to?

Why dont you take your daughter to a martial arts class or self defense? She is 11 and as you say you cannot always be there for her. A class like that will not only teach her the skills to physically defend herself but will help her feel confident enough to deal with situations like this.

Relying on the police to speak to these girls really isnt the answer. Infact, if the girls ever saw your DD again I would be worried about what they would do to "get her back" for reporting them.

Erm IF this is the full circumstances, abit OTT, sounds like you have become a little obssessed with it.

If scraps I had as a kid had been reported to the police, I would have a record as long as my arm!

Perhaps you haven't heard from the police, as they believe that talking to the girls was enough. Do you REALLY want them prosecuted? A police record?

And don't believe this won't get around. Your daughter could end up getting the cold shoulder cos parents are scared of what will happen if their kids have a disagreement with yours.

I would think that a talk from the police would have scared the living daylights out of these girls.

Let it go - move on.

Op what were your DD s injuries?

What are you expecting? Police are understaffed you know. What did they say they would do?

i agree toughasoldboots!

oh dear! i think the police have more inportant things to be getting on with dont you OP?

I think this must be a wind up as i cant not imagine that a child would be left to be raised by someone like the OP. calling the police over an arguement over a swing? FFS there is a shortage of poilce as it is!

if i was hit around the head by 3 people because i wouldn't give them something i'd call the police too!

it wasn't just an argument was it.

Holy cow I'd call the Police if I was being hit by three other women trying to get something off me too.
Have you called and asked what the police did? Have they been and chatted to the girls? Did your Dd know who they were? It's been so long I doubt they'll do anything now if they haven't done anything already.
I'd teach her to defend herself if this is how the girls around you are behaving. I taught my boys, you never throw the first punch or start stuff, but it's OK to hit back one good punch should do it and end the fight.

If I was on a park bench and three other people started hitting me around the head because I wouldn't move, they would be bloody arrested. Why are our children expected to be assaulted and just get over it. It would shake me up and it does shake them up.

Why do people expect children to live with assault?

Totally agree this was assault.

Did she know these children?

Totally agree with toughas this is not OK nor childish rough and tumble!

I don't think the police can pursue it unless you try to press charges for assault. They can't even have a little chat, which is very frustrating; you could ask about restorative justice if you don't want to make it into an assault case (I wouldn't want to press charges).

I went thru this when DS got beat up once, and he wasn't willing to do restorative justice so we had to let the matter drop. But the police (PCSOs) did make a note of the incident, privately, it was part of their picture in dealing with the culprits who were at high risk of going wrong in other ways.

It is assault. And I'd be pissed off too. I got hit around the head by 2 people when I was out in town one night. They got prosecuted for it, because its assault!! No different just because you're 11.

Agree with Toughas I expect the people who attacked Noqontrol started off as 11 year old bullies and were never pulled up for it!!

I am at people saying that OP was wasting police time. Are you all fine with three women coming and hitting you around the head, then? WTF is the matter with people!