AIBU to be annoyed?

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My DD is disabled and can't fight infection well.
My Dad has terminal cancer and can't cope with infection.

On Monday I made arrangements to go to a friends house for a few hours. I got there and we were chatting away quite the thing when they announced that their child was off school (and was through in bed) as they had the sickness bug.

I have been ill since late Tuesday/early Wednesday morning and I'm now hoping that my DD and my Dad don't catch anything from me.

AIBU to think a quick text or phone call to cancel/warn me so I could make my own mind up would have been polite??

I am beyond angry just now but its just the fact that I am ill that is pissing me off so it may be clouding my judgement.

Even without the increased risk to other family members I would have pre warned you.

I have a friend with a disabled son, and I have a son who is asthmatic and prone to ending up in hospital when he has a cold. We have an unspoken arrangement whereby any illnesses we pre warn and where possible stay away!

If your friend knows about dd and your dad Yanbu
Did your dd go too?
I hope you are feeling better soon

YANBU.

Your friend should have warned you definitely.

It sounds thoughtless. I assume they are awarte of the situation with your DD and your Dad?

Hope you're feeling better soon.

No YANBU. I think it's selfish of people to do that no matter what the other persons situation. I don't want that to sound horrible to you and I hope your dad and DD are ok, I just mean that everyone should be given the opportunity to decide if they want to risk going to someone's house if there is a bug there.

The same applies to people who send their children to school with D & V or go into work with it (I'm fully aware that people's work and financial situations can make time off difficult, but this doesn't help others that become infected)

I always text/phone if someone here is not well-even with just a cold, so that the visitor can decide for themselves. Even colds can knock someone sidesways for the best part of a week.

Yes the friend knows. My DD was at school luckily (Scotland). Thank you.