To EBay my friends castoffs?

[BettySuarez]

She gave me a big bag of clothes last week - really good quality clothes that her DC's have grown out of or no longer use.

She handed them over so that my younger DC could rummage through and pick out anything suitable.

She said to help ourselves and to hand the rest to charity.

Thing is, we could really do with the money right now and there are a dozen or so items that are in really condition but I feel awful that this wouldn't really be in the spirit it was intended.

BettySuarez. Good plan,

Nokidshere - it's not always 'gifts with strings attached' - when I pass stuff to friends its more of a 'I'm giving stuff to charity, did you want to have a look to see if there was anything you wanted first'. If people are going to pretend they need/like stuff just to stick it straight online to make money then that's a bit sneaky. I'd rather give it straight to charity next time.

'I'm giving stuff to charity, did you want to have a look to see if there was anything you wanted first'.

Thats still an offer with strings attached. "you can have it but only if you are going to use it in the way that I say".

No, that's not how I see it, or most of my circle of friends who offer things see it.

I suppose you would see it more literally/technically like my friend who has started making money out of it, which isn't really in the spirit of which it is intended - I would like to think that if someone knows the intentions are for a charity to profit they wouldn't try to make money off that.

If she was hard up for money or even just asked first 'there is nothing I'm personally interested in having, do you mind if I sell some' I would see it differently.

Yanbu. Give them to charity. I'd be livid if a friend did this.

I stringly suspect a friend of mine sold nearly new bags of clothes I gave her that were my DS.s. I nevergave them to her again as I want themto go to friends who need clothes for their children.

I always find these threads and the outrage they garner so utterly depressing.

If a friend, i.e. a person I loved and had a history with, was skint enough to need the small amount of money she could get selling used children's clothes, I'd actively look for anything else I had that she could sell, or for any other way I could help her. I wouldn't be "livid" or "outraged". I'd be SYMPATHETIC because being that skint fucking sucks.

Jesus Christ.

What ninedragons said.

It is a bit cheeky but I'd do it and not say anything. But then again I don't have much of a conscience about things like this!

I personally really don't think it's on for you to do that.

I'd feel like I was stealing from a friend if I did this as it is money they could be getting themselves.

It's rude to do it without telling her, but I'm sure if you ask she'll be fine with it. Freecycle has a policy that if you're planning to sell something on you're supposed to tell the person who's giving it to you, it's just considered to be good manners.

I can't be bothered selling stuff on ebay tbh. But if a friend took things I had given her and sold them I think I would still be a bit .

If she said 'I'll sell the rest on ebay and split it with you.' I'd probably say 'Great, here's a whole bunch more, sell it all!!!!'

Sorry, that's just very wrong. I would be stunned to learn a friend had done that.

If I gave stuff to a friend who then asked if she could eBay, I would be ok with it. If she didn't ask and Ebayed it if I had asked it go to charity, I would be pretty pissed off!