To think this is bad manners?

[akaemmafrost]

Is it rude to walk into a room where someone is sitting reading and open a window wide, without asking the person who is already in there if they mind?

I suppose if the person reading smells terribly, the window-opener might be forgiven.

And I suppose it might matter where the window is, and whose window it is.

The provisos are endless.

I am an inverterate window-opener though, so I am biased.

Its my window, in my living room.

My ex arrived today to pick up kids, walked in and opened my window wide. I had wet hair from swimming and was cold.

I said "do you mind?" and he shouted at me to stop being so controlling and stormed out without taking the kids telling them that "I can't stay because Mum is making problems again kids!".

Oh yes, that was very ill mannered of your Ex.

Did you throw your book at him, as a way of expressing your displeasure?

Was he not your ex before he opened the window?

Wow, I cross posted with you there OP. It sounds as though you're well rid of him!

People like that wind me right up.

Why was your door unlocked/he had a key?

Sounds like he wanted an argument so he started one.

No, I opened the door, invited him in and went and sat down again. He greeted the kids and then came into the living room, practically ran over to the window and threw it open in a I Can't Bear To Be In This Sauna Of A room manner.

He does not have a key.

yes it's bad manners.

YANBU he was rude

Thank you. He makes me question myself sometimes. He said "I don't need to ask your permission to do anything!"

arse

He sounds like a right twat. You are well shot of him!

And yes, it is bad manners and it sounds as though he was looking for a fight so he didn't have to have the kids.

Idiot.

I agree with Kerry - he was just looking for an excuse not to have the children. Count yourself lucky he's an ex!

If he can't behave in your home then he's not allowed in your home. It's perfectly acceptable to pick the kids up at the front door.

You lot are so lovely you make me cry (in a good way).

Always having these little run ins and I always think its me until I get on here. He is an arse!

What an awful thing to do to the children as well

Yes . That's not the first time either. They didn't seem that bothered actually .

I don't know how you do it. Having to tolerate for an Ex's bad behaviour without turning them against him. Children are well capable of making their own minds up though, as you say ......

I think this can be put under the heading of Willy Waving. He was just making a passive-agressive point. Don't let him in.

What a nob.

It's not you. It IS him.
He is BVVVU. In future he should expect to collect the kids from the front door (and will be expected to be civil to you) or this whole nest of vipers will have to...
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