letting my teen out when friend is due round

[msnaughty]

i have a really good friend who helps me with painting and things like that. she has 2 children who are 3 and 10. i have 4 children, who are 2,5,9 and 15.
my 9 year old son still plays kiddie type games. her 10 year old does not. and she and my 15 year old get alone well. they have girly chats bit of chat about boys and things.

yesterday my friend was going to come over with her 2 children. my teen was going out with her friends. and my friend heard me say good bye to my daughter. then she seemed to get mooody with me and my daughter because my daughter was going out and would not be here to keep her daughter company. There were a couple of moody text messages sent to my daughter about coming home to keep her daughter company. my daughter said' i am allowed out you know'! Then my friend called me back moaning about my daughter being rude. My daughter does get along with her daughter. But my daughter is 15 and wants to be around friends her own age.

mummytokatie: this is where i get stuck with whats right and wrong. i understand that its not right for a 15 year old to bully a 10 year old. Bu on the other hand she is to mature to hang about with my 9yr old. as i said it was a mix of texs between the mum and the daughter anyway so we dont really 100% know who sent what.

The mum 'was' going to send a text to my daughter saying funny how my daughter is good enough for you when you have nothing to do. my dd only see's the 10 year old if they come to my house. i just said to the friend if you are going to say somethng stick to the subject. wich was the way she felt my dd text.

i spoke to my dd in the end and said just send her a text saying it did not mean to come across that way dd said: I was not being horrible to 'z' in anyway but im sorry if it came across that way. but i really was not being horrible. tones of voices cant be heard in a text and maybe my text was taken the wrong way.

I would not expect my 15yr old to entertain anyone else's child, let alone one that is 10yrs old.

I think it is unreasonable for the other mum to send any type of text to your daughter about her not being around.

yes i would not mind if it was just asking are you going to be around later, type of message but i think the mum was a bit pushy