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AIBU?

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to be so irritated by one of my children

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runamile · 21/08/2012 11:24

I know IABU but is it normal to be so irritated by one of your dc (my 5 yr old dd but not my 10 yr old.) It's the constant nagging, saying 'mum' in a whingey voice all day long, the talking, the questions, the not leaving my side. Even her loud deep voice and coughing and sneezing grate on me (I am being mean now I know.) She is generally just being 5. I am trying to be patient; this morning she said 'why are you saying that's nice when it's not?' Is it me or am I just not cut out for motherhood?

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Pseudo341 · 21/08/2012 11:28

Kids are irritating, the important thing is to not take it out on them. Of course you're not not cut out for motherhood, it just sounds like you need a bit of time away from her that's all, preferably in a sauna! Can you palm her off on someone else for an afternoon to give yourself a break?

hillyhilly · 21/08/2012 11:28

Do you get a break from her? It's the constant-ness that gets me to where you are on occasion

greenhill · 21/08/2012 11:30

But you will love her once she is back at school.

My 5 yo has just kicked the iPad out of my hand as we watched CBeebies on it. As you can tell it is fine, but there have been strong words about not doing gymnastics on the sofa, I even phoned my DH at work to complain! We have just had a nectarine each so the situation has calmed.

Tangointhenight · 21/08/2012 11:31

My 11 month old irritates me sometimes too I win in the terrible mum stakes but she is at the whingey stages now and some days she whinges from morning til night :(

I get how it can be irritating for you, I feel sorry for my parents I must have been the most annoying child ever I never shut up!!!

Ilovesunflowers · 21/08/2012 11:32

5 years olds are irritating! Constant questions, never stop talking, so dependent but actually more capable than they want to see. Try and get a break and ask if she can go and play at a friends house for a few hours. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! 5 year olds are ever so cute once you've had a break from them!

lovebunny · 21/08/2012 11:37

get counselling. you care or you wouldn't have posted. would you want to be in her position, with the most important person in your world just finding you annoying? she's lovely. she's yours.

MadgeHarvey · 21/08/2012 11:50

Get counselling? For fuck's sake - the OP is annoyed not homicidal! Everyone goes through this OP - it will pass - honest!

lovebunny · 21/08/2012 11:52

get counselling. use your heart, empathise. you don't need criticism but you don't need platitudes either.

there are a lot of bullies on mumsnet, and unpleasant people. i ignore them.

Annunziata · 21/08/2012 11:53

I'm currently annoyed with all of mine, tis only normal!

WorraLiberty · 21/08/2012 11:54

Of course she doesnt' need counselling...what a waste of time and money.

OP what you're experiencing is completely normal and will pass

It's the Summer holidays afterall....I'm quite sure absence will make the heart grow fonder when your DD is at school in a few weeks.

MadgeHarvey · 21/08/2012 11:55

Right. So every time anyone is annoyed at anything it's off to the counsellor is it? Hmmmmm - will there be enough to go round?

WorraLiberty · 21/08/2012 11:56

It's one way to solve the unemployment figures Madge

groundhogmum · 21/08/2012 11:58

Of course you're irritated with your DD - she is 5 and its the school holidays!!

I usually reach about 11am before the irritation kicks in with my 3 year old DD! It is the constant draining of your energy that I struggle with! It will all seem much better at bedtime

MadgeHarvey · 21/08/2012 11:58

Damn right worra - wanna go into business with me?

LynetteScavo · 21/08/2012 12:00

Today all three of my children are annoying me.
I don't need counciling. I need to be alone.

I find 5/6 year old annoying generally. I adore children up to the age of 5 and they seem to be less annoying once they are 8.

NCForNow · 21/08/2012 12:03

My 4 year old annoys me. I find something for her to do. Her older sister annoys me less...because she's better at entertaining herself..of course she is....she is 8.

Little people want attention. School's back soon OP...you will be fine.

orangeandlemons · 21/08/2012 12:04

Oh yes, mine drives me wild too. Pester pester pester, nag nag nag , endless demands. Sometimes I lock myself in the loo to escape.

Usually by 3 pm I am fit to be tied. I still love her to bits though. So I think you are normal. I have also noticed these irritation feelings peak and trough though.

DD5 woke up at 4.30 this morning, so so did I. we are bothvery irritated today

WorraLiberty · 21/08/2012 12:06

Are we allowed to slap people Madge?

I used to play a game with my DS's on the way home from the supermarket

It was called, "Who can stay quiet the longest?"

It basically involved the pair of them shutting up until we walked the 20 minute journey home

Absolute bliss. Even if they did spend the entire time making up weird and wild sign language...

ChablisLover · 21/08/2012 12:09

i am constantly annoyed to by my DS who is 5 never leaving my side, constantly asking questions. Oranges - whats it like to go to the loo by yourself? Is it bliss? I come to work for that!

I do get tired and irritable but then I look into his eyes and I realise i love him dearly

And he is even more lovable when he is asleep (the fact he does not stay asleep is another matter!)

WithoutCaution · 21/08/2012 12:09

If she is asking lots of questions etc then why don't you set some time aside (if possible) get some plant/tree/bug/animal/bird ID sheets (the laminated ones that are easy to follow and have lots of pictures - If you can't find them online/in shops then let me know and I'll see where I got mine ) also get a camera, pencils and some paper.

Go and explore a wood/field/stream anywhere with flora/fauna that can be ID'd, interesting surfaces to take rubbings from and things to bring home and turn into works of messy art.

Could she join an activity group so you could have some Me time?

Chestnutx3 · 21/08/2012 12:10

There is only 2 weeks left to go. If you have not found your children irritating after 6 weeks holidays then you need counselling as thats not normal. FFS sorry counselling.

Entirely normal. Sign the kid up for activities to give you some time off if you can afford it and count the days.

Moominsarescary · 21/08/2012 12:14

Ds2 is being very annoying at the moment, it's the holidays he's bored and he goes on and on and on. I don't need counselling just a bit of peace and quiet would be nice! Luckily my mum is taking him away on thurs for a long weekend.

lljkk · 21/08/2012 12:16

What Chestnut said. YABU to only find ONE of them irritating.

SausageSmuggler · 21/08/2012 12:17

Completely normal. I'm not quite in the same situation yet but my almost 2 year old is going through a very irritating stage right now and tbh I'd get more of a response from a brick wall! I agree it sounds like you need a break, can you offload them on a friend/family member for an afternoon?

songline · 21/08/2012 12:18

My gorgeous DS irritates and bores me, he recounts endlessy the things he's seen on youtube word for word but with no context. I just fade out whilst occasionally making the right noises !

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