Friend talking in a smutty way around young teenagers.

[Colleger]

I was out with a friend I've known for a very long time but don't see very often recently. We have very different lifestyles but I don't judge her in any way - each to their own.

Anyway, our teenage kids were with us and she was using disgusting language, calling herself a MILF and saying other things - ive never heard her soeak this way before. I jokingly kept saying, "please don't say that in front of my son" but she kept retorting that he'd hear worse at school and continued saying disgusting things or using innuendo. My son then thought he could speak inappropriately - he never does in front of me - and when I chastised him she told him to go ahead and keep talking like that, laughing and finding it hilarious.

AIBU to think that adults shouldn't speak like this to 13 year olds even if they do hear worse at school, and that we have a duty to act as adults and not teenagers in such a situation? I adore my friend and she is now planning to come down for a weeks holiday soon but I don't want that type of influence in my home. If I'm blunt with her the holiday will be very awkward.

Is your son old enough that you could explain to him that her behaviour is OTT and others will think badly? Risky, but my own DM has a similar friend and I remember at a similar age she told me:

'X just comes away with things - she's a lovely person but people do look at here because of it. Just change the subject & don't get drawn in.'

and explained that the subjects she was discussing where best kept private between family or couples when a bit older.

Fortunately X would change the subject, so might not be so great if your friend can't take a hint!

Ephiny, maybe she's saying "mylf"?

Seriously OP, massively inappropriate and you need to nip it in the bud