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AIBU?

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To think my postman is up to something?

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 14:17

10 days ago, it was my DS's birthday and his Great Grandparents and Great Uncle live a long way away, have no idea how to do internet banking etc, so stick to what they usually do and send a Birthday card followed by a letter including Birthday money. One card was received, yet the other one and the money still hasn't.

Also, I booked train tickets last Thursday and paid extra to have them recorded delivery and arrive the next day. I still haven't received them either. As I need them for in a few days, I rang Virgin trains to find out what is going on. On the tracking system it says that the postman had tried to deliver on Saturday, but there was no answer. This is bullshit, as I live in a block of flats and he buzzed my door to get in on Saturday and delivered junk mail through my letter box (the only thing I have been getting for 2 weeks, apart from some Birthday cards, two still not here, along with the money, and another letter I have been waiting to receive confirming direct debit payments). So, because it says he attempted to deliver, I don't get my money back for the recorded delivery and they gave me a number for Royal Mail to ring.

So, I rang them, and they told me the same thing and said I should of received a red card through the door to inform me of an attempt at delivery. I never got this. The best they could do after telling them everything, about other letters not appearing etc, is offer me a redelivery slot and report the fact no card was left, and ask the sorting office to check for other mail which could be there to be delivered at the same time.

AIBU in thinking that something fishy is going on with the postman? He didn't even turn up for 5 days the first week. No one in the block received a thing. And now letters/cards are disappearing and he is lying about attempted deliveries. I am tempted to pull him up about it the next time I see him and try and report this further. Or am I reading too much into it and should just leave it, pray it still gets to us, if not then suck it up, seeing as I actually don't have proof other than him lying about the tickets? I just don't understand though, why lie about it?

WWYD?

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Ithinkitsjustme · 20/08/2012 14:21

I'd be pushing the postoffice to sort this out - sounds dodgy to me. Don't ignore it, but neither do I think you should confront him personally.

perceptionreality · 20/08/2012 14:23

I would definitely report it. It's best never to send money in the post though - a cheque is much safer.

BonkeyMollocks · 20/08/2012 14:23

Get back on the phone to the post office, don't hang up until they agree to something!

MrsJREwing · 20/08/2012 14:23

i put in a complaint about mine too, loads of missing post.

MrsKeithRichards · 20/08/2012 14:28

Not much use but I got a pile of mail shoved through my door the other day, from February!

There was a note saying it had been found in a member of staffs possession.

Nothing important - just a job offer and hospital appointments.

MrsJREwing · 20/08/2012 14:32

i got referred back to my gp due to did not attend at hospital appointments, i never got the letters to know i was to attend. what is the deal that these posties are not doing their job?

sugarice · 20/08/2012 14:33

Definitely report it, there was a case last year of a dodgy Postie who had 9,000 items of post stashed at his home.

FalseStartered · 20/08/2012 14:35

maybe they are having trouble covering rounds during the holiday period?

WilsonFrickett · 20/08/2012 14:35

MrsKeith

Report it OP.

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 14:35

I know perception, I told them and even gave them my bank details and said that when they are next in town, to just pop in, give them the details and ask for the money to be put into it. But they didn't :( they are all in their 80's and feel uncomfortable doing things they don't understand etc. But now they are regretting sending it through the post.

My lad hasn't missed out, as they said how much they were sending and I went out and spent that amount on him so he could open them on his birthday. But I am annoyed now, as we are going on holiday (hence the train tickets) so that means I am short of £100 for the holiday now, and just praying to god it isn't lining someone elses pocket.

I am going to get straight back onto them. It has to be at my end, as both my Grandparents and Great Uncle sent my other Uncles birthday money and cards at the same time (his birthday is a day after DS's) and he received his the next day. So definitely something going on at my end I think.

Thank you all. I won't approach him. I was just going to ask him if he could double check his bag as I have been awaiting mail for weeks and still not had it, so he knows I will do something about it and not just writing it off. But will stay quiet and get onto the right people.

Should I contact my sorting office or should I find a main number for complaints etc?

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squoosh · 20/08/2012 14:39

I seem to remember a Channel 4 doc last year where they carried out an experiment of posting birthday cards with tenners in them, leaving the envelope tucked in rather than sealed. Very few of the tenners made it to the recipient.

I think with the Royal Mail they have such a huge turnover of staff they are inevitably going to get chancers rifling through post for birthday tenners.

He's s bit silly to be messing around with Recorded Delivery items however (if he is) as those can be tracked.

mockingjay · 20/08/2012 14:44

Hi OP - have you recently moved into your flat? Just asking because we had a similar problem, and it turned out that we had a second, unlabelled letter box - technically for small parcels - that we found everything in a couple of months later. Bit of a long shot, but might be worth asking the land lord?

Any chance that another flat has your mail? E.g. if you are number 3B, you could drop by number 38?

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 14:44

That's what I thought squoosh, rather baffled by it. But he did buzz my intercom Saturday, and came in and posted junk mail through my door and that was it. He knew I was in, as I had let him in. But yet, he didn't even attempt to knock on the door and then he doesn't even leave a card to inform me he had tried to deliver something which needed a signature, and had gone back and said he had, and that I wasn't available when he had tried.

Because surely he wouldn't get to keep the package anyway, and he would need to hand it back to the sorting office?

Either way, he has lied. No idea why, but the whole thing stinks of something fishy.

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mockingjay · 20/08/2012 14:46

Have to add that I think it is unlikely to be the postman (at least not deliberately). Our recorded deliveries going missing was what made me so sure it WASN'T our postman.

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 14:48

Nope, lived here 8 years and definitely no other boxes for mail. Plus it is only Flat 1-6 (small block of flats) and I am 2, so can't see how it could be confused for any other number up to 6? Especially the train tickets (as my Nan does have scribbly writing so slight possibility) as the address for the tickets were printed off.

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mockingjay · 20/08/2012 14:48

But it's so bizarre Kaboooooom, that I think it's unlikely he has lied. He's got the wrong address and buzzed the wrong person. Because as you say firstly there's no gain to be had, and second he knows you know he knows (are you following??) that you were in.

mockingjay · 20/08/2012 14:50

All very strange then OP... very strange indeed. Possibly a new neighbour with a similar name??

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 14:53

I really don't understand myself, hence why I posted. But he has lied, as they had the right address (they double checked with me) and he said he had left a card so I knew, but he didn't. I really have no idea why. But I am annoyed as something is going on. Letters I should of had 2 weeks ago, I am still waiting on but it is strange how we are still getting junk mail :/

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mockingjay · 20/08/2012 14:55

It does sound very annoying.

While it's not a great idea to ask the postman yourself, will the post office do it for you?

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 14:57

Maybe he was worried that if he knocked, I would say something about the disappearing mail. He couldn't leave a card, as he knew I knew he knew I was in, and would of caught him leaving the block after he had gone upstairs and come back down. So he just took it back in the hope I would ring, then just go collect it myself?

God knows. I don't understand. All I know is that something isn't right.

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LineRunner · 20/08/2012 15:04

On Ebay boards there are loads of stories about tracked post going missing, about cards not being left, and the royal mail generally being a bit shit.

MrsJREwing · 20/08/2012 15:11

all these posties are doing is making themselves nearer to the dole que. I got the hospital to stop letters, i asked for emails etc from people as a result of lost post, and wont post stuff myself now, all lost revenue for their employers, due to greed and lazyness.

valiumredhead · 20/08/2012 15:34

Our old postie was sacked and sentenced for stealing loads of post! Apparently he had sacks full of birthday cards in is flat when it was raided - we had an apology letter from the PO.

We have a lovely one now though

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Kabooooom · 20/08/2012 15:36

I haven't used the post for a very long time. I certainly never post money, as I have heard so many stories about money going missing. I just do an internet banking transfer but my Grandparents wouldn't even know how to turn a computer on, nevermind anything else. My Nan won't even use an ATM machine as she has no clue how to use one. She just stuck to what she does know how to do and it is a shame she can't put faith in doing so.

It is so wrong that postmen take advantage of this. I have put in a complaint and it is being reported, but that is all I can do or them, as they only sent it first class

I just hope and pray that it arrives before we go away.

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LineRunner · 20/08/2012 15:37

Our current posman seems lovely, but he certainly doesn't do a round every day. He is to be seen, at most, every two/three days - yet we are all receiving much less post than usual. We are assuming the royal mail is currently very short staffed, or cutting back, or otherwise in some sort of Debacle Mode.

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