about being left behind while everyone goes on 'holiday'?

[TheOnlyPersonInTheRoom]

At the beginning of the year my DH said he was going to go to Spain in October to do some work on the house we have there, leaving me and DD at home. He would take his dog (I emphasis it's his dog as I was clear I never wanted the dog but he got it anyway - whole other story there!) and be able to work undistracted. All fine and dandy.

A few months later he said he was taking his workmate Dave with him and they would both work on the house. Again fair enough.

Dave and his wife Jane are also 'couply' friends of ours, by the way.

Then a few weeks ago Dave asked if Jane could go along on the trip too, to which my DH said yes of course.

As they are going in a van there is now no rooom for the dog, so the dog will stay at home with me.

I'm really annoyed about 2 things really but my husband just thinks I'm being unreasonable. 1) As well as dealing with baby DD on my own all week, I also now have to look after a dog I never wanted, and am working full-time around that 2) My DH is going on a holiday with our friends without me, and I got no say in it.

I know it's not strictly speaking a holiday, but it's still time away and I would still have liked to have had the chance to go seeing as Jane did and seeing as it's half my house!

I just feel like I'm the convenient hired help looking after dog and child at home and working to pay the mortgage whilst they go gadding it up in Spain. And yes I know they'll be working too.....

So am I being unreasonable?

The nature of the trip has changed so YANBU. Why are you looking after the dog though?
Even if your DH has said yes its easy enough for you to go back to Jane and say that as you are working full time you can't see how you can look after the dog effectively so could they put it in a kennel thank you very much.

Suggest that when they get back and the house is sorted, you will go for a holiday with your DC and leave him with the dog . YANBU

Well perhaps Jane thought there was no way she was going to want her DH taking time off work and flying to another country to help someone else sort their house out?

Maybe that was the only way he could get her to agree.

As for the dog, I suppose you could always put it in kennels until your DH gets back.

I don't really think it's a holiday though if they're really going there to work, regardless of whether Jane tags along.

Take a week off yourself, go too - you and Jane and DD will fly, they can take all the bags and the dog in the car (so you don't have to deal with much at the airport and baby), you'll meet them there. (or put the dog in kennels/leave with PIL)

You, Jane and DD have a fabulous week, DH and Dave do the work to the house, spend evenings together.

There you go, all fixed for you.

Dontmind has solved your problem. Do what she said. Your dh can pay for the fights.

When it's suggested, maybe Jane won't go anymore if she's Not getting free transport, in which case it can go back to plan B and your dh can take the dog.

YANBU

Plus one for DontmindifIdo suggestion

YANBU

Dontmind's suggestion is brilliant

But its not that easy to just take a week off work and presumably the OP wants to keep these for true holidays i.e. ones where both she and her DH are available to relax and share child care. I fail to see how taking a baby to a house that is being constructed upon by the DH will be much of a treat for the OP and the dog that she wants to avoid will still be around anyway.