To still miss an ex lover who dumped me four years

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ago and aside from one very brief chat we had last year when he stopped the car to say hi, I have not seen or heard from him.

What do you miss about him?

Why and how did he dump you?

I don't think you're being unreasonable. You can't help it if you miss someone!

But I wonder if it might be helpful to you to think about the relationship and try to remember any crappy bits in order to forget about him

there are people who were in my life 20 or more years ago. I sometimes think of them and when I do - I miss them. There's nothing wrong with that.

I would think only if it was consuming you, would it be a big deal.

He dumped you right? Why on earth then would he want to contact you?

It is NU to miss someone, but I think you need to get over it and move on.

Ahhh .... this post makes me feel really

YANBU

I had a boyfriend in my early 20's for 4 years. He was a bit older and we were at different stages in our lives (he wanted to get married and have children whereas I had only just qualified into my career and still wanted to have fun). One evening I came home to a letter (I wasn't living with him) saying that he needed to move on. The next evening I came home to a box of my stuff which had been at his. I've never seen or spoken to him since. To say I was devastated was an understatement. I'd liken it to a bereavement as overnight someone I had loved just disappeared from my life without having a chance to say goodbye. To this day I'm still not sure why he ended it in the way that he did (which, incidetally, was totally uncharacteristic).

Anyhow, point I'm getting to is that if a relationship ends suddenly - and not on your terms - I think it is inevitable that you will think about them and miss them. I did - for years later. Probably only really stopped when I met someone else.

All the best to you xxx

YANBU PM me if you need to chat, i know how you feel x

It took me 5 years to get over my ex. We were together for that long and just about to live together. He got cold feet

YANBU - some people take longer to move on and we all process things differently.

One day you will realise you haven't thought about him for a while. Take your time and don't worry if other people think you should be over him by now - that is for you to realise