to use this name

[doncaster72]

So I am pregnant and we have finally decided on a girl's name. Let's call it "emma". However, we know a family with a child with the same name. Still no biggy. Her dd is 6. However, her older sister shares the name of one of our dd's.
Would this put you off using that name?
Incidently we didn't know them when we name our eldest child.

Should have said trivial AIBU

Do whatever you want.

If you feel it will be a issue for you then only you can decide.

Depends how close the family is as confusion may arise when all kids are playing etc but if its just a family you know by association i would still use it

Its a family from school who I chat to on school run but don't see outside of school. Her dd with the name we want to use is in same class as my younger dd.

depends how friendly you are. people on here will say that no-one owns a name and go for it. if they are a close friend you owe them some consideration, i think, and should take into account their feelings - they might not mind, but you should check.

names are given to differentiate people. if you see someone regularly with the same name it will cause confusion. though if its a top 10 name i would guess they might not be that bothered.

this happened to us and we thought the people, inconsiderate and selfish as we had thought them to be close friends.

Round here it seems to be compulsory for Sam to have a brother called Ben, and Oliver to have a sister called Rebecca. i think styles of names just appeal or they don't.

Depends how unusual the name is as well I think. If it is Amelia, for example, then you can't be offended if others use the name (I have an Amelia)

If it is Princess Tiiami then it is a little more obvious.

If you don't see them out of school though then genrally I would use the name without a second thought

My pfb had the same name as my XHs nephew both forename and surname, and they went to the same school. We used to have to use their middle names and date of birth all the time, and we still had a 50/50 chance of getting the wrong report, exam results, and letters home.
That said, if this other family are just neighbours or not very close friends, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Unless you're all called Smith or Jones

I'm in a very similar situation. I'm a teacher and DD shares the name of one of the girls at school. The name we both prefer for this DC (if it's a girl) is the same as her sister (also at my school).

I've decided not to use it as it seems a bit strange (DH thinks it's a strange reason though).

Use whatever name you want to - people don't 'own' names.

Its a fairly common name. Maybe in top 20.

YANBU use the name if you like it, simple as that. [SMILE]

I say use the name if you want to. Chances are, you will not know this family forever and you might resent not choosing a name you love, on the basis that someone you are not particularly close to, has children with the same first names.

Use whatever name you like! In considering names for my DCs, my friends's children's names are very near the bottom of the list of 'thing to take into account' in fact I wouldn't

When you mention it for the first time say 'you obviously have such good taste in names'

PomBear are their initials MW?

I helped in a school with two children with exactly the same name (first and surname!)

No kayano they were both AM with different middle initials. My no2 son shared a name with a child a few years ahead of him in primary school and the school once vaccinated my son instead of this other child. That was a fun day when I got there Quite how they mixed up a teeny reception tot with a strapping great 9 yr old I will never know, and they had ignored DS's attempts to tell them he shouldn't be there, and then they had the gall to send a blank consent form home "for me to sign and date last tuesday" arghhh I still seethe now and DS was 18 recently!