the reason for my question is a friend who has recently parted company from the father of her 3 dc's ages 14,13,10 is in a bit of a suituation that has prompted me to think about this.
she gets no maintainance and even when thats sorted out it will only be £5 a week for all of them,she is on a very low income and cant work more at the mo she has a disability that makes it hard for her to keep up with the 4 hours a week she works at the mo.
he moved out but keeps turning up on the doorstep not wanting to see kids but wanting to hassle her she made it clear this wouldnt be tollerated so he now randomly turns up to see the kids but wont leave the house with them unless she gives him money for bus fares ect.
thinking about her suituation has got me thinking about another friend who has a 9 month old son his dad pays nothing and refuses to see the baby if she is around,he also wont go anywhere with the baby unless mum provides everything he may need including food/nappies basicly everything he has allready broken a expensive pram combo buggy moden thingy she had (a pram that on clicking a few magic buttons converts to a buggy) and neglected to return a carseat to her.
i find this rather odd but am at a total loss as to what is concidered normal with contact arangements and equpiment and what advice/support i can give them when they talk about it to me,
so is this normal or are they being ur what do you reckon would be reasonable