For thinking they over reacted?

[PandaFoot]

I went to a kids birthday party today with DS (5mo), my sister and my nephew (15mo).

DNephew is going through a hitting phase right now, driving my sister mad, of course she tells him NO every time, but at 15 months not much punishments are affective.

So at the party which was mostly little ones, there was one girl who was 13 (years). She was sitting with the kids while they were painting, and tried to grab the paintbrush she wanted off of DNephew, who in return, slapped her in the face. Of course my sister was mortified, told him off firmly in front of everyone and removed him from the table. But the girl burst in to tears and went off to her mum, who then spent the rest of the party giving dirty looks to us. Then as we left said loudly 'I hate when people can't control their kids'

Now neither I nor my sister condone hitting, and accept he shouldn't have done it. But AIBU to think this was an over reaction on both the girl and her mothers part?

Massive over reaction and she shouldn't be snatching off a baby!!!!

If the 13 yo really did was grab a brush from a 15 month old, I'd say her mom was the one who couldn't control her kids.
YANBU

Depends, it possibly hurt the girl. So she would upset. But yes an over reaction on the mothers part. Her 13 year old should have been taught not to snatch.

Agree with monsterchild, and I'm not sure I could have resisted saying as much on the way out.

Bet the girl will think twice before grabbing something off a small child again. :)

A 15 month old hurt a 13 yo? Seriously?

fgs he's only 15 months the girl should know better than to grab off him in the first place - how weird

People just love to judge.

She was a being a twat.

Btw 13 years old crying from a 15 month old slap? If it was my 13 year old, Id be telling them to (wo)man up!

I prefer it when people can control their kids - especially their 13 year old ones, who let's face it should know better than to snatch something off a baby.

YANBU. Massive, inappropriate reaction. IMO, they should have apologised for their daughter's poor behaviour - or actually, made sure that she apologised herself.

Dozy my ds is 17 months and can give a really hard smack. He has al.oat had me in tears.
Thankfully all the now seem to have sunk in and he hasn't done it for a few weeks.

I'd like to say that a 13 year old who snatches off a 15 month old deserves to be hit (by the 15 month old), but I'm not sure if that sort of opinion is allowed around here.

YANBU

The mother was taking PFB to new levels

I accept it may have hurt, he's got real chunky arms! But I'd have thought at 13 running crying to her mum was a bit over the top?

She was enjoying bossing the kids around, and I think was trying to be kind (in her own way) but too forcefully for DNephew's liking

Maybe I just have a higher pain threshold then... Sorry I really didn't think a child that small could hurt a child that big with a slap. Even so, if a baby hit DS (he wouldn't cry but would try to retaliate) id say its a baby it doesn't know.

Even if DS didn't deserve it I wouldn't make a big deal out of a 1 year old hitting him, and he's only 6!

Well... children do need taught not to hit, but if she snatched the brush off him, then she only has herself to blame. At 13 she should know better. The mother needs a slap too.

At 15 months old, he did nothing wrong, even if it was a random slap, although it wasn't, she deserved provoked it. Frankly the girl sounds like a spoilt brat with a silly cow of a mother.