To think that sometimes 'I've got my eye on him' isn't enough?

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AIBU to get a bit and with DH? Don't get me wrong, he's a good DH and dad; does his share, v hands on, looks after DC at weekends etc. He's usually so sensible too. But.

Example one: 2.10yo DS is waving a golf club around in v close proximity to the french windows. Me: (walking in to the room) 'Aargh! DH! Please don't let him brandish that thing right next to the window!!' DH: 'Calm down; it's alright - I've got my eye on him'

Yes, but your eye being on him isn't going to help in the split-second it takes to wing a nine-iron through a pane of glass...

Example two: 2.10yo DS is still in the shower, having shared one with daddy, who has now got out and is drying himself. I walking in to do my teeth and notice DS is holding MY RAZOR. See above for conversation, with appropriate substitutions

Ok, it was a safety razor, a leg-shaving one, not a cutthroat one, and probably pretty blunt but still very easy to nick yourself. AND STILL A FUCKING RAZOR

(I think he may be feeling a bit about the razor thing after I went a bit nuts at him as he had a shower with DS this morning and took the razor out before hand.)

I'm all for letting children have freedom to explore things, but sometimes you do have to wade in when there's a chance of major destruction/bodily injury! Just watching them is NOT sufficient in every case, imo. Or AIBU??

Nicking yourself with a razor isn't major destruction bodily injury. Sometimes you have to let kids learn things the hard way. Don't know about the golf club. Could he have swung it hard enough to smash a double glazed window?

No YANBU, when I was about 18mo, we had my grandad over to stay for a visit and he left his razor on the bathroom sink...I still have a faint scar on my chin 21 years later, needless to say my DM was livid.

And as for swinging a golf club around, is he lacking in common sense?

Yanbu. Having you eye on kids isn't always enough to stop them hurting themselves or causing damage. In some situations its just means you will see it happen.

Denise let kids learn by playing with a razor? What the actual fuck? You really are on one today aren't you?

I'm pretty laid back with most things but do not let ds play with my razor so he'll 'learn', even leg shavers can do some pretty bad damage I 'nicked' a chunk out of my foot once when I slipped and still have the scar to prove it.

Look, I think we all find toddlers will get into trouble no matter how careful we are, if I take my eye off dd for a second she is up to something. At the weekend I am grateful of any help my DH gives, he works full time. He isn't always as vigilent as me but sometimes dd needs to learn by her own mistakes. I think as a partnership, dh and myself we have slightly different ways of doing tings and hopefully together we bring out the best in dd. Cut your dh some slack, pointing out a few dangerous things to him might help somewhat, but let some smaller things go as well.

Keep dangerous stuff out of the way. Put your razor away when you're done with it. Golf clubs/hockey sticks/cricket bats only to be swung around outside.

Sounds like both your dh and ds need boundaries reinforcing!