to be pissed off??

[RandomUsername]

Need a bit of a rant.

I have 2 kids, a baby and a toddler, my partner works and i stay at home. I dont drive, the buses arent regular or pram friendly, and my toddler is an absolute nightmare to take anywhere, so im pretty much stuck at home 24/7.

Been having a bit of a moan lately to DP about how fed up i am, i dont get any adult conversation, any time without the kids etc...

We're currently trying to save up for a holiday.

Anyway, yesterday DP said ''why dont we go out for a meal tomorrow night, i'll see if my mum can babysit and if not we'll go somewhere child friendly and take the kids with us'' YES!! I thought, im going to get out of these 4 walls for the first time in ages, usually i go as far as the shop and thats it (i live in a very small town)

So today ive had a bath and done my hair, slapped on some fake tan and picked out a nice dress to wear.

Then i get a phone call from DP saying ''maybe we'll give it a miss tonight, i'd rather put the money towards the holiday''

But heres the best part, next Saturday my DP is going out at dinner time, drinking and playing cards with his friends all day then coming home at god knows what time. And yep, i'll be at home, on my own, with the kids, just like i always am.

Am i being unreasonable to feel very pissed off about this?

He's 3. He actually starts nursary in September (so not much of a toddler anymore)

Im just sick of the whole situation. Feel so trapped.

Maybe you could try and chat to the other mums at nursery and make some new friends?

so, when he says "are you taking the kids?" you say "no, I am going out."

Arrange to visit some friends for the weekend and leave the kids with him. That way you can have a night out, get the break that you need and he'll realise just what you do.

He is a dick, but to be fair he's right that he shouldn't have to organise your social life. It's tough living in a rural area but it is important that you set up a life for yourself outside of the children. That said, you don't necessarily need to go out to relax - could you pack DP up with the kids and send them off out for the day while you stay at home and chill out? Your DP isn't being kind at all about this but it does seem like he's frustrated about you complaining about not getting out when you don't actually have any place to go.

CailinDana i think you've hit the nail on the head when you say ''it does seem like he's frustrated about you complaining about not getting out when you dont actually have any place to go''

We did go out for a meal on Friday night, then on Saturday we took the kids to a soft play centre at a town about half an hour away and i bumped into an old friend there, so had a chat with her, got her number and she said we should meet up with the kids sometime, she's in the same boat, worse even because her partner works on the oil rigs so is away from home alot and she doesnt drive either and has 2 kids.