AIBU to expect that family & friends make a bit of a fuss about my birthday?

[neverbe21again]

Cause it just doesn´t happen. Even with the big ones. No presents or surprises or flowers etc. I can count the number of presents mum has given me on one hand. I would be happy with a well chosen book - and she has never bought me so much as that.

Same with DP over 20 years. I´m not materialistic - have no interest in lavish luxurious items. He basically buys the same things on each present-giving occasion. Something I´m not interested in.

I would be happy if people just gave me a call to wish me a Happy Birthday... Friends know it´s my birthday but don´t send a card. I´d like DP to actually think about and plan a nice day for me. As it is, I have to tell him what cake he should get, where wrapping paper is, what we should do, etc. There are never any surprises. I have to do all the work.

Money is no issue by the way.

Am I terribly spoilt and silly? Or just disliked or not terribly appreciated?

YANBU. When I was 17 my mum gave me a card and that was it. It was as a punishment for whatever slight I was guilty of that week. FWIW I was not a bad teen. My mum was just a bitch.

My birthday is tomorrow and DP has got me a present, cards from him and DD and is baking me a cake. Ok so its a betty crocker packet mix but I dont much care. He has invited his parents round and his mum is making dinner and bringing it (because she has no faith in his cooking :o ).

But I wont hear from MY family at all. Last year when we were speaking my parents gave me a card and present but my brother didnt acknowledge it at all. No text or card. Not even on fb. Then asked where his present was on his birthday

Its one day a year and if people cant even send a card or text/phone it would really make me sad. Especially your own mother.